This post has been edited by Naamah: Thu Aug 19, 2010 06:05 PM
Good sex life or children?
Posted Thu Aug 19, 2010 06:02 PM
Posted Thu Aug 19, 2010 06:07 PM
Posted Thu Aug 19, 2010 06:10 PM
Posted Thu Aug 19, 2010 06:14 PM
In this imaginary situation you could have childen. What would you choose then?
Posted Thu Aug 19, 2010 06:46 PM
if not, it's still kids every time:)
Posted Thu Aug 19, 2010 07:41 PM
i couldn't, I won't and I wish....
Posted Thu Aug 19, 2010 09:42 PM
I've been around enough that picking the sex life is an easy choice.
Besides, being an uncle is like having kids for rent that you can send back anytime the cuteness factor wears off.
"here's your kids back. I'm going back and pick up the first hot babe I find in a bar and eat ice cream out of her ass. Have fun with that justin bieber concert."
Oh yeah, tough choice.
Posted Thu Aug 19, 2010 11:15 PM
Posted Fri Aug 20, 2010 12:47 AM
Posted Fri Aug 20, 2010 05:31 AM
1. I do not want to have children / I do not want to become a parent. (personal „philosophy“ of life which I would not like to discuss in more detail here as it would be really off topic)
2. I do love sex.
3. My partner loves sex.
4. My partner does not want to have children.
It is not difficult to make calculations based on these assumptions.
Posted Fri Aug 20, 2010 12:43 PM
Hmm, well... I'm young and don't have kids, so my gut reaction would be to choose the good sex life as that's reallyreallyreally important to me *right now*. Because I don't have kids yet, I can't possibly know the perspective of a parent. And if Mr._C. and I had a lousy sex life, I'd want for us either to work on making our sex life better or to break up as I doubt I'd be 100% happy if I was left sexually unsatisfied. I also would never want to be stuck in a sexless marriage.
But on the other hand, being a mother, IMO, is probably one of the most fulfilling things a woman can do in her life. My mom has said that being a mom is the best thing she's ever done. I do want to have kids someday - just not right this minute. And I know Mr._C. wants kids, too. He once told me that he'd love to have a huge family and gave me six as a number he could reasonably see as the number of kids he wanted to have (although that will never happen - I want to be a mother, not a zookeeper, LOL). Sure, he has nieces and nephews, and I could always help to take care of my friends' kids and sort of live vicariously though them, but I'd want my own kids. Plus, the question does say that I wouldn't have to give up sex completely. I'd still have a sex life - I guess it would just be mediocre at best and potentially lousy at worst. At least we'd be having sex at all.
I have to logically say that I'd choose to have children over a good sex life - in the context of this particular question.
HOWEVER - if the question was to choose kids OR having a sex life at all (i.e. you could only have sex to have kids, and once you had your children, all sex would stop - the only sex you ever would have had would have been to procreate), then I'd choose the good sex life. I'd never want to give up sex altogether. So with a slightly different situation/question, my answer would change.
Posted Fri Aug 20, 2010 12:51 PM
Posted Fri Aug 20, 2010 02:56 PM
....To Miss C: I enjoyed reading all parts of your post, which is written in a perfect way, but this one sentence is really on the top of my favourite "quotations of the day". Beautiful:)
Posted Fri Aug 20, 2010 11:38 PM
Posted Sat Aug 21, 2010 02:48 AM
Now, my best orgasms have been while I was pregnant, and because of that experience, the quality of my sexual response has improved and expanded...
However, in an imaginary world where I could only have one and not the other, I prefer to have children. In fact, I'm prepared to sacrify many more areas of my life for the luxury of having children.
This post has been edited by Olive: Sat Aug 21, 2010 02:55 AM
Posted Sat Aug 21, 2010 04:07 AM
Personally I can't wait to have children, but we've decided it's not the right time at the moment. It's a no brainer for me
Posted Sat Aug 21, 2010 05:42 AM