Bad Boys versus Nice Guys Ladies which do you prefer?
Posted Sun Aug 22, 2010 01:28 AM
A guy with an element of danger, the rebel, or a nice conventional regular guy, less exciting, but less dramatic too?
Posted Sun Aug 22, 2010 02:15 AM
Posted Sun Aug 22, 2010 03:43 AM
we only notice the asshole because theyre making an ass of themselves, usually in a spectacular way.
(i respond to the direction i see this tread going. ie a couple guys will post about how theyre nice guys, and all they see is hot women dating the spiky haired douches etc.)
Posted Sun Aug 22, 2010 02:26 PM
Posted Mon Aug 23, 2010 12:32 AM
Posted Mon Aug 23, 2010 01:20 PM
Posted Mon Aug 23, 2010 01:55 PM
It seems ideal to me. In fact, this post has helped me to find the right words for my preference when it comes to good versus bad girls (another thread in this subforum - now I feel that I should go back to this good/bad girls thread and explain my preference in a better way after being inspired by your post here, so thank you for inspiration and I hope you will not mind if I borrow your words...borrow, not steal, because I will not hide my source of inspiration:)
Posted Tue Aug 24, 2010 06:25 AM
What about a 'nice guy' that becomes a 'bad boy' that would be a dilemmea?
Posted Tue Aug 24, 2010 11:49 AM
lol! no severin i don't mind at all!
Posted Tue Aug 24, 2010 07:00 PM
It has nothing to do with bad or good, more about self confidence and the ability to carry themselves. Perception is everything. I'm not a nice guy and nor am I a bad boy either, but depending on how you see me, when you see me, I may be classified as one or the other.
This post has been edited by Averroes: Tue Aug 24, 2010 07:02 PM
Posted Fri Aug 27, 2010 03:44 AM
Posted Fri Aug 27, 2010 02:36 PM
For example, Mr._C. is a nice guy - I wouldn't be with him otherwise, haha. He's intelligent and can hold a conversation with me during which I feel like an equal contributor, and he knows how to fight fair when we have disagreements. He never calls me names or hits. He listens to me and values my happiness. And he really tries to give me gifts that he knows I actually want and would use. He has nice friends - some of them are in a band, a lot of them have kids, some of them are married and have nice wives. They're all normal, decent human beings. But Mr._C. likes heavy metal music and wears band t-shirts with holes in them and ripped up jeans, and he has long hair. He's not afraid of a fight. And back in high school, he liked to wear black and was almost sort of one of the "goth" kids (not quite to that extreme).
Deep down, most guys are nice. You just have to get past the "bad boy" image/persona. A guy can wear leather and ride a motorcycle and hang out in dive bars and still be a nice guy. A nice guy can be exciting and open-minded and creative and spontaneous. He doesn't have to be any less fun than a "bad boy." It really is about finding a guy who is a good balance of both - like backcheck said.
Posted Sat Aug 28, 2010 04:46 AM
I couldn't have said it better myself to express my own attitude to this and to describe my preferences! Thank you, Vanessa, for finding the right words
Posted Wed Sep 01, 2010 07:21 PM