Types of orgasms for women
Posted Thu Aug 17, 2006 04:42 PM
every once and a while when my girlfriend and I make out/sex she will tell me that she had anywhere from 3 to 5 orgasms. The thing is sometimes it is hard for me to know when she is having them.
Most of rest of the time though she will have one earth shattering orgasm and that will be it, i can always tell when this happens for sure because she thrashes around alot and I can feel her contractions. After this she is basically done and doesnt want anymore sex - she literally dries up and its painful for her to continue. I usually can go for a long time and it kindof goes back to my other post about wanting it to last longer.
Lets just base any replies on the fact that she is telling the truth (I know she would not lie to me about anything)
the question is what differntiates between the little orgasms that come like 4 or 5 times and the one that will basically put her out of commission for a week? And how can I ask her slow down so that it will last longer?
Posted Thu Aug 17, 2006 05:15 PM
Posted Thu Aug 17, 2006 07:14 PM
it justs seems to me from hearing about other sexual encounters that it is the woman who usually can and wants to have multiple orgasms over a few hours of having sex where the man usually is done after he cums the first time (because of the refractory period)
Like I said in my other post my girlfriend usually orgasms within 20-30 minutes and is then just done...period, no more sex that night and usually not for at least a week afterwards.
again dont get me wrong I want her to come as much as possible but because i can go so much longer than 30 minutes I want to know what i can do to make it last longer!
what ever happend to making love all night long?
Posted Thu Aug 17, 2006 07:19 PM
Ok... just asked her....
She says sometimes it's what I'm doing... but she thinks it has more to do with how she's feeling and how "worked up" she is.
Maybe tease your gf more. Pay attention, if you feel the muscles tighen, or start to quiver... stop, start working on her a different way... just try to string her along.
My wife holds them off on purpose, in order to "build up" to a bigger one.... or at least that's what she's claiming.
Posted Thu Aug 17, 2006 07:24 PM
Posted Thu Aug 17, 2006 07:28 PM
in short i feel like her goal is to cum as fast and hard as possible
it almost ironically sounds exactly like what some women complain about with their man - little to no foreplay and then bam, done.
Posted Thu Aug 17, 2006 07:43 PM
Posted Thu Aug 17, 2006 08:04 PM
This is true... my wife has often stated that she wish that sometimes I'd just "throw her down and do it".... instead of the "all night" makeout session.
Posted Thu Aug 17, 2006 09:04 PM
Posted Thu Aug 17, 2006 09:08 PM
but that's just me