Some anal problems...
Posted Fri Aug 18, 2006 07:33 PM
My current gf is TOTALLY against anal, which completely bums me out (no pun intended ). She gets totally uncomfortable when I do anything with her asshole and says it gets her totally turned off. She says it doesn't hurt or anything, it is just weird. The thing is sometimes all I think is anal. I don't know what to do...
She's an amazing girl and we have great sex, I just really want to fuck her in the ass! She said she tried it once in the past and it was the worst pain she's ever experienced but I'm positive she didn't do it right. I don't understand how she could try it once but not with me. She says shes more comfortable with me than anyone shes ever been with, I just don't get it. She saw some Sue Johanssen (the sex lady) show that was against anal sex so that may have contributed to the problem.
So, anyone have anybody with any experience with anything like this have any suggestions to help out my situation? It would be much appreciated.
Posted Fri Aug 18, 2006 11:20 PM
Posted Sat Aug 19, 2006 11:44 AM
All I can do is suggest building up some emotional trust with her because it seems as if anal make her uncomfortable mentally, not physically (though she says it 'feels' weird). A good way to do this is to indulge her sexual fantasies a bit. Let her know that you wont make fun of them, or that they wont change the way you feel for her. Let her know thats its safe for her to share those things with you, and hopefully shell become a little more open with the idea of anal.
She may be "scarred" from the first time, so you will have to be patient. Dont go for the gusto right away, perhaps try rubbing her asshole when you give her oral, and maybe even slipping a pinky in (makes for an incredible orgasm). Then maybe work your way up to larger fingers (over numerous sexual sessions). Perhaps in time she'll be confortable enough to try a butt plug, and if so, full out anal is not that big of a step.
In all honesy, one anal experience isnt enough to know what your talking about. However, her one and only experience with anal was bad, so its understandable why she isnt all that thrilled to try it again. You have to show her that that one time isnt how it is supposed to be. Since i dont know her or how she is, you are going to have to figure out the best way to do this. In my opinion, a lot of talk, a lot of trust, a lot of patience, and a lot of patience.
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Posted Sat Oct 28, 2006 05:33 PM
don't beg or anything, but explain to her how there is a good feeling in anal sex if it's done correctly and you would like for her to trust that you can do it right