[chickybaby]

I'm married and never been with a girl before. I have always had a difficult time orgasming. My husband loves to eat me out. I can not get off until I pretend it's a girl eating me out. I will picture in my head some naked chick licking my pussy and then I have a strong orgasm in less than 5 minutes. If i don't think of a girl down there he can eat me for 30 min and i won't get off. I get so horney and really want to get with another girl but not with my husband. I really want to eat out a girl and suck her nipples. I've thought of joining a gym so I can maybe come on to a girl in the locker room and get to try sex with a girl. you see girls all the time getting out of the showers at the gym and I've thought maybe I would just compliment one that i was attracted to maybe just looking at her get dressed. not in a creapy way but just enough to let her know I liked her body. wow that sounds creapy.
I fantasize about having some girl eat my pussy in the shower of the locker room and then i will eat her out. I want to do it just once so bad to know how it feels.
is this crazy? I would never tell my husband i have this fantasy.

[browneyedcutie19]

i know exactly how you feel try it out see if you like it

[Messalina]

I am married and had a lesbian fling in college so I guess I know a little about what I am talking about. So you have lesbian fantasies. Join the club. When my husband goes down on me sometmes I fantasize that its Resident Evil Milla Jovovich eating me out, but then again sometimes when I suck his cock I fantasize I am sucking off football quarterback Tom Brady. The real question is whether you really want to cheat on your husband and don't anyone ever tell you having sex with another woman isn't cheating. Do you love him? Does he treat you right? So many women I know are involved with men who treat them like crap (my hubby treats my like his angle and I really love him) that I would think long and hard about cheating on one who was good to me. Enough said. Its really up to you.

This post has been edited by Messalina: Sun Sep 19, 2010 10:03 AM

[Messalina]

For even thinking about cheating you owe your husband 50 blow jobs.

[forsakenone]

i'll be honest with you, i would tell my husband. first of all he is a guy and he will understand because we are into this kinda of thing. if he loves you he is going to let you do it and who knows maybe one day you will do it 3 ways. and if you love him, lets say he wants to get sucked off by some not guy like me i think you would let him so if he loves you back he should do the same.

i am not married but me and my girlfriend have been together for almost 5 years. if she asked for something like this (yeah even without me joining or even watching) i would let her do it because i love her so much that i don't want to lose her, and i know that if i forbid her from doing it she would most likely do it behind my back.

good luck.

[BeamandCoke]

I would lean towards telling him as well. Im married and I think I would jump at the opportunity if my wife ever brought it up. We have a very open sexual relationship so if one of us wants to do something we air it out there. That being said we've never ventured into having other people involved so I dont know that it will ever happen.

[Miss_C.]

Maybe you're bi-sexual or gay. Or maybe you're at least bi-curious.

The only way to figure out what's going on is to be honest with yourself. Have you been able to get off with men you've slept with in the past - without fantasizing about a woman? Have you ever found yourself attracted to a female friend in a sexual way (i.e. wondering what she looks like naked or what she's like in bed)? Do you watch lesbian porn more than any other type of porn?

I'm not saying that you're definitely a lesbian or anything like that, but from your original post, it seems like this is something to at least think about. If you don't have any other gay tendencies and only fantasize about women during the time when you're receiving oral, then maybe your guy just isn't giving you what you're looking for when he goes down on you.

If nothing else, you should at least talk to him about what you like when he gives you oral. Do you like biting/nibbling down there? What about sucking? Licking? How and using what motions (circles or up and down or back and forth from side to side)? Do you like fingering or anal stimulation at the same time? What about breast stimulation at the same time? Maybe you'd fantasize about women less if he was doing what you wanted or if you could coach him, in a way.

Fantasizing about women is a common fantasy among straight women, too. I think it has something to do with the idea that a woman would know exactly how to go down on you because she has all the same parts and knows what *she* likes and would do those things to you. Having this fantasy doesn't automatically make you a lesbian. However, it's certainly possible that you're bi-curious/bi-sexual/a lesbian. Only you can know for sure after you take a look at your sexual habits, fantasies, and past.