Meeting up with Ex-Girlfriend
Posted Thu Sep 30, 2010 09:58 PM
Now fastforward, she asked if i wanted to come spend the weekend at her school, only 1 1/2 hours away. I'd assume as just friends because she said that she'd make up a comfortable bed in her room for me etc... But when talking, she brought up things like spooning with her and her roomates, all of us when i get there... seemed weird to me. And then she asked if i wanted to go out and party too and i said sure, i could care less. My mind is still spinning because we've been friends, and she seems to be pushing the friendship, which i'm fine with... but on the other hand there has been hinting towards what seems like more than friendship too.
So if I go and we have more than that, that's fine with me, but what do i do if we go out and party and she goes off to dance with other guys? What if she comes back with a guy? Do i go off and dance with girls? I just feel like it'd end up awkward for me to see her with other guys and vice versa. I'm sure when we first go out, we'll get there and we'll dance with eachother at first, do I make/hint moves with her, or let her do that? Who knows, she could be feeling the same thing and worried if i'm over her and we are in the friend zone? We could just end up staying in. What is everyones opinion and advice?
By the way, I still love her, not like I did when we were dating though, all of you should know what I mean. I would consider dating her again since the distance isn't far, but i'm still fine with being really good friends because to be honest, we know eachother much more than everyone else does.
Posted Thu Sep 30, 2010 10:22 PM
Well, communication is the base to any good relationship (as a couple or just as friends) I think I understand your dilemma, have you think about talking to her.
If I were you I think I would see how things go while I'm there, I don't spoon with my female friends... I don't even sleep in the same room as they (tho culture might vary from place to place).
Things might get clearer once you get there and spend the night at her room. If you have even more doubts you might explain her you're kinda confused making emphasis that you don't want her to feel awkward or you can also try a more direct approach "So... we're going together? I wouldn't mind at all to spend the whole night with you but if you want to dance with other guys I'm ok with that I just want to make sure sure"
Well, that's what I would do I guess. I wish you the best of lucks and may things get clearer for you!
Posted Sun Oct 03, 2010 09:32 PM
Posted Wed Oct 06, 2010 12:08 PM
Well, don't mind about that too much and may the schwarz be with you next time
Posted Fri Oct 08, 2010 05:19 AM
awww thats a shame, sounds to me like you're much better off without her, go out there and get yourself another girl and forget about her, she's a waste of breath x
Posted Sun Oct 17, 2010 12:34 AM
Sorry to hear that it played out that way and I know exactly how you feel, its complete bs, just make sure you dont make the mistake i made and go back a year later under th same context expecting something different.