Posted Fri Oct 08, 2010 11:23 PM
I want to find a really open-minded woman so I will never offend her as long as I really love her. Sigh.
For me, I feel emotional connection should always come before physical connection.
I have asked thousands of(perhaps even above ten thousand) English questions on the Internet these years along the way and thousands of people from all over the world answered my questions. But I still don't know deeply about a particular person with a different cultural background. I want to find a female who is not wanton and we can share our feelings/emotions, thoughts, anticipations, etc. We hope we can keep regular contact for at least 10 years or even during the entire rest of our lifetime. Is it difficult to find such a person?
Oh, maybe it is a wrong place to find a soul mate here since it is a sex site. Maybe it is OK to get painful/sad emotions off one's chest here.
Can you recommend any other good websites where I may find a soul mate?
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Posted Fri Oct 15, 2010 08:59 AM
U will be very much disappointed if u think u can find any soulmate from the website.
I would suggest u to give up this silly hope n starts searching for one from the REAL WORLD around u.
After all, China is a big country n I am sure u can find one if u really try.
Posted Fri Oct 15, 2010 09:52 PM
I do not believe in soul mates. I do not believe in love at first sight. These irrational, illogical expectations are responsible for maybe 80% of the divorces and breakups (we can't be having this argument/disagreement- we're made for each other!). Every other relationship in our lives- schoolmates, workmates, even family members- developed through time and effort.
As for your idea of developing a friendship over a number of years, you can find that anywhere, even online, but that isn't what you want, it seems. Most people talk of soul mates as someone to share their lives with- in person, not just in cyberspace. The best thing about internet friends is also the worst thing: invisibility.
Most of us are as open and honest as we are because no one knows us beyond this website; not many of us would discuss bondage and positions and whether to swallow on the job with our co-workers, for example. By the same token, many people use the invisibility of sites like this to re-invent themselves. My profile says I'm a 50-something African-American in California, but I could easily be a 17 year old with pigtails and freckles from Dublin.
My point is, we are all products of our culture, our environment, with no real understanding of the colossal differences from one country to another. Hangzhou is a very beautiful town, which most Americans have never heard of (I've met people in Beijing and Chengdu who've never been there!). We in America or Europe can meet you online, share our ideas and feelings, but we can never know how it feels to be a teenager in the changing China.
Being open online is easier than doing so in your day-to-day life in China, even nowadays, but any friendship that will approach your idea of a 'soul mate' will come from your daily life, not your laptop.
This post has been edited by ScottyWright: Fri Oct 15, 2010 09:54 PM
Posted Sat Oct 16, 2010 01:11 AM
I have asked thousands of(perhaps even above ten thousand) English questions on the Internet these years along the way and thousands of people from all over the world answered my questions.
Through your fucking computer out and get out of the house and look. Ten thousand questions, good grief. Only takes one. Met my first wife in a bar and said "You wan't a beer?" That was the beginning.
Posted Sat Oct 16, 2010 07:12 AM
then I lost him to a tragic accident...