We have known each other for 6 years & we have been together for 3 of those 6. We have a daughter who is almost 2 years old. In our relationship we have had lots of ups & downs but we have recently gotten incredibly close & open with each other. Both of us have been expressing our true feelings about life & we feel that because we are both really young we should still experience life in a fun outgoing way. I really want to experiment with another woman because it has always interested me & women have always turned me on. Obviously with him being a man he would love to have a threesome so we really want to try it out. Here is the catch, we don't just want a normal threesome we want another lover to share our lives with. He was so shocked that I felt this way because normally I am really jealous & insecure but he has really been making me feel wonderful lately. I would really enjoy sharing our love with someone else because it is so amazing!
Now, obviously there are some worries here but I think if anything became a problem with either one of us we would be able to share our feelings & protect our relationship together. I worry a little bit that he might care for another woman more than he cares for me & I would feel like I'm competing with someone else. However I honestly don't think that would happen because I trust his love for me & even if it did then it was obviously meant to be. I really don't see anything wrong with trying it & if it didn't work for us then we would at least be able to feel better knowing that we experienced that.
Another MAIN concern for us is our DAUGHTER, what if this did work out, how will she turn out as a person living with 2 mommies & a daddy? Will it effect her mentally? That scares me more than anything! I am hoping someone in this same position can give me some advice when it comes to raising a child in that kind of environment. Also, we worry about what our families think because neither side of our families have anything this crazy going on in their lives, at least not openly!
If we did go through this we also wouldn't even know where to find someone that would want to join our family & someone that we could both love & care for. She would have to meet both our expectations & she would have to be great with our daughter. I have a few friends that I would be comfortable with but they all have families, husbands etc. Besides Fire_Crotch wouldn't be into them anyways. He doesn't have very many female friends & definitely no one he'd want to be with as a lover. We need ALL the help & suggestions we can possibly get! OH, another big concern for me is that I'm scared that we might not find someone that is sexually attracted to me! I know that's my insecurities talking but I am a big girl & I am uncomfortable with the thought of being around someone while naked.
I'll give you a little bit of a briefing on my body... When I was 17 I lost about 20lbs & weighed 140lbs! I got with my man & gained about 15 back, no biggie to me.... Then when I turned 18 I found out I was pregnant & I ended up gaining 75lbs!!!! If you don't feel like adding (this is SUPER hard for me) I weighed 228lbs after giving birth! About a month after I lost about 26lbs & felt great but then I made the mistake of getting depo. I gained 34lbs in no time! That's 236lbs for those who aren't keeping track! I stopped getting depo in December last year but haven't dropped the weight. I haven't been doing anything to lose the weight either so I know it's all my fault! My mother-in-law has let me join on her YMCA membership & she has been working out with me. She went on vacation & we haven't been back since, this was about 4 weeks ago. We are going to go this Wednesday, anyways I'm hoping to lose weight & get more comfortable with my body but that is a huge insecurity to me. The only time someone seen me naked for the first time I had a gorgeous body & now if I got with someone new I would be scared they wouldn't think I was sexy. If you have any suggestions for what I can do to at least feel more comfortable with myself please tell me!
This post has been edited by Mrs. Fire_Crotch: Sun Nov 07, 2010 07:24 PM