The whole weekend...huh?
Posted Mon Nov 22, 2010 08:33 PM
Basically I'm unsure of why...so any ideas? we don't talk much, we just ya know get naked and get it on, then we go back to whatever it is we were doing (like last nite, he was at the bar, I was at home watching a movie, I picked him up, got him naked then dropped him back at the bar...)
Seriously, I'm slightly confused here....is this kind of like moving into a relationship territory? Because I was very up front with him that I did not want a relationship...and he was the same way.
Posted Mon Nov 22, 2010 09:58 PM
Posted Tue Nov 23, 2010 04:51 AM
it isn't clear to me he wants more than sex. Perhaps he just wanna a "fuck in".
I don't know if the expression really exists (English isn't my mother tongue, far from it),
but I mean being inside, somewhere, to fuck for hours, sometimes days.
I personally love it, but only one of my fuck buddies has the stamina. Perhaps yours
wanna try it with you. Perhaps he's got a fantasy he's working on and he'd like
to be with you the weekend through to pull it out. Could be bondage, or other
things. Since he said "kidnap" him, perhaps he's a submissive and he just can't
tell it that up front, so, he thinks the weekend would offer the opportunity. The
word "kidnap" could be a hint.
I wouldn't, like someone suggested, kidnap him literally, tie him, and ignore him.
I think this would be mean. I'm pretty sure he used the word "kidnap" loosely.
If you don't wanna be with him for a longer time, be it for sex, be it for
companionship, avoid this weekend. Tell him how you feel.
There isn't a better tool for any relationship that beats dialogue.
Now, even if he's not moving into serious relationship mode now,
it'll eventually happen. In my experience, all men mix up sex with love. All my
male fuck buddies, and some of the females, wanna have a relationship
(beyond friendship/sex) with me. I've got surprise engagement rings, which I don't
accept, of course, and those unwanted conversations. In my case,
because of the way I am, I get marriage proposals, not the thing in between.
It is very difficult not to hurt. So, just in case, I'd be preparing myself to say
how I feel (read: don't feel) in terms which aren't hurtful.
What I find the most difficult is keeping from crying when I'm actually feeling
lonely and a man proposes. It is difficult to say "no", when part of you is
saying "yes", then go to bed alone, craving that particular male's scent.
When sex is clicking, all males fall in love. That's my experience.
If this guy is a submissive, then, there's an added "problem". It is
very difficult for a woman to find a dominant male. For a man, it is
even harder to find a dominant female. If you play the game, this guy
will probably become dependent on you. Dependent on what you'll
do to him. You'd be perhaps the only woman he'd ever had who'd
indulge his fancy.
I can tell for myself. I've got a particular fancy one of my male
fuck buddies indulges. Some of the others do it, too, but it is really
his thing. He's the very best, an artist, a gorgeous creative mind.
As "hardened" as I am, my heart is his. Not like in "I wanna marry you",
but there isn't a thing I wouldn't do for him. And, though I won't
tell him that, I'd love to have him moving in.
Edit: so, my message is, if you haven't yet, start preparing some speeches
to say "no" in the least painful way.
This post has been edited by alien2: Tue Nov 23, 2010 04:52 AM
Posted Tue Nov 23, 2010 07:29 AM
I'm not sure if I'm ready for this, Backcheck!
Alien, that was my first thought, but after I talked with him a bit, I'm not so sure that now he just wants to be able to fuck for a couple hours. If that was the case then I wouldn't need to keep him for the whole weekend! I will say I do not think he's submissive, unless there is a side of him I'm missing. He's my 'rough' sex partner, meaning when I want taken and taken hard it's him I go to!
I haven't decided yes or no to this. I do know it cannot be this weekend. My house is on the market and my Realtor called me yesterday, she's showing my house to someone on Sunday, so I'll be in clean this house mode all weekend. Not conducive to fucking all weekend!
For the record, this is the guy that's 6 years younger then me.
He does currently have a girlfriend, so I'm not sure if that makes a difference or not...
Posted Tue Nov 23, 2010 10:11 PM
On the other hand, I've a bit of a sadistic streak in me...sooooo that sounds like fun
Posted Wed Nov 24, 2010 09:41 PM
my bestest guy friend (who knows everything and anything about me...lol) said i should take him to the local-ish sex shop...the 'good' one...and by that he means the downright nasty seedy one, lol....that would be enough to scare him...hell it's enough to scare me! LOL
Posted Fri Nov 26, 2010 01:26 PM
No nothing's planned yet, lol, thankfully, b/c this weekend is nuts-o for me! but it's going to be soon, i'm sure!
Posted Sat Nov 27, 2010 10:01 AM
We had a little bit of a conversation and then I decided that I had to get out of there or against my better judgment I'd go home with him!
Posted Mon Nov 29, 2010 08:38 AM
there was naked-ness involved, but we did talk...
I still don't know what he thinks we'll be doing, lol, and neither does he, but i'm sure we'll think of something!
Posted Mon Nov 29, 2010 09:10 PM
I've got a photography shoot on Sunday...told him about it, he said that'll be good i'll be fucked out by then...i said what if I'm not?? no comment from him
At any rate, I'm very curious as to why he thinks this is necessary, I think i understood when he had a girlfriend, but he no longer does. I was at his house for about an hour on Sunday, no big deal b/c we're both single now...and his house is way fricken closer to the favorite watering hole!
No I don't drive when I've been drinking, if I'm at the bar, I drink one an hour and stop at least an hour (or two) before closing time, so I can drive home (not that I need booze to fuck him...). I mean if I'm at the bar and have not planned on staying with someone in town or getting a ride home from someone else!
Truthfully I'm not sure where this is going, and i'm not sure that I like that whole might/could be a relationship thing going on there. Hmmm. I do like that we now have actual conversations about things, other then where are we meeting and how soon are we getting naked.
Posted Mon Nov 29, 2010 09:11 PM
Posted Tue Nov 30, 2010 07:05 AM
Fingers crossed there is NO wind and it's not too cold, otherwise we're doing it inside and I have no lights...ugh...ugh...ugh...lol
They have been talking about this for a couple of months...i kept saying better do it now, you are losing the fall colors and the warm...no one listens, lol.
The pics that were taken are so bad, they cant be photoshopped to be fixed! I should have went with them, as an artistic consult i think!!
Gotta love kids, but I learned on a point and shoot that I can take some good pics, but the better the camera the better the pics!! I'm glad I spent the cash and got the Rebel!!
Posted Thu Dec 02, 2010 08:33 AM
She's an excellent photographer, does a hell of a job, and learning from her is a blast! I've known her litterally all of my life!!! (she's 8 days older then I am, her mom & my mom were best friends! LOL)
I love to shoot outside, I'm hoping to start photographing wildlife, I was thinking about going deer hunting with my dad and lil bro this weekend, just to shoot with a camera!!
Back to mr. wants me for a whole weekend, he had told me he was single, kicked the 'psycho' girlfriend out...her car was at his house last nite and he was driving it later (no i'm not stalking him I have to go by his house to get to my dads, i think i'll change my route!). So i'm not sure if she was ever gone, and I hate to be lied too! That's the cardinal rule, do whatever, but DO NOT lie to me! I just simply do not get it, it's obvious that I did not/do not care he has a girlfriend. Didn't bother me in the slightest bit, but lie to me? oh no no no I simply will not stand for that! So we'll have to have a conversation if he still thinks i'm kidnapping him this weekend!
Posted Thu Dec 02, 2010 08:56 AM
For shooting wildlife, get a Sigma 50-500mm, also known as the Bigma. Love mine. With the dipter effect of the apc-s sensor on the Rebel, you'll be close to 700mm of actual range. Warning, it weighs 4 lbs by itself so if you don't work out, get a monopod....that and it has a price tag of $2K, but well worth it.
$2K? damn, lol...and 4lbs??? wowza, i'll skip that for the moment!! LOL I shake when I have my big lens on as it now, I just need to use it more to get used to it!
hmmm drill bits, tin snips and a ballpeen hammer...got the drill bits and the cordless....not sure about the snips and do not have a ballpeen that i'm aware of tho there's a ton of crap in my garage I haven't gone thru...hmmmm lol
This post has been edited by Double:D: Thu Dec 02, 2010 08:56 AM
Posted Thu Dec 02, 2010 06:42 PM
I have an epson r1900 printer that I got for my scrapbooking (which btw is how i got into photography in the first place!) and it's excellent!!!
very nice shots! Someday I'll be able to do that, lol...someday!
Posted Thu Dec 02, 2010 08:22 PM
I have no idea if he actually lied to me or not, meaning yes he did dump her, but then took her back. I'll have to have a conversation with him on this.
(watch out, my scheming side is going to rear it's ugly head) I did think about going ahead with the kidnapping and sending him home with a bloody back I'm fairly good at that without even trying (for the record, he'd go home with a bloody back if i did kidnap him...) I have nails and I know how to use them (i'm not really knowing i'm using them tho!) The last guy I spent several nites with looked like he'd been whipped with a cat o nine tails (i'm not usually that hard on a guys back, but he was really good, make me cum really hard...make me lose my mind and you're going to end up bloody...sorry!!! My husband learned very quickly to hold my hands above my head )