The reason I lost my confidence.
Posted Tue Nov 07, 2006 01:18 PM
It started whenever I talked to a girl online and she lived in the same state I lived in. I talked to her a lot and was starting to like her and wanted to meet her. All I showed her was a picture of my head and nothing else. It got when we was ready to meet and we set up a place to meet and I went to meet her and when she saw me she snarled up her lips and said I hope you are not the guy I have been talking to online. I said her name and said right. she said yea but I thought I was going to meet a nice looking bald guy, and come to find out he is fat as hell. I said what? she said you heard me, I thought I was going to meet a nice looking bald guy and find out he is fat as hell. I said sorry "her name" I didn't think I was fat. She said how could you think you was't fat, You have never looked into a mirror? I said sorry I just thought I was a little over weight. She said NO YOU ARE FAT AS HELL! I do not know why you would even think that you was not fat.
She really tore my confidence down and hurt my feeling real bad and I had a problem ever since then. But I have lost a total of 50 pounds since then and I am finally getting my confidence back but I am still a little over weight. I have 20 more pounds to loose to be at the same weight I was when I was in my twenties and then I will be 100% confidence back.
I want to thank everybody here for helping me get my confidence back. All your nice remarks helped me to regain some of my confidence back.
I have lost about 15 more pounds since my last pictures was taken and put on this site. I will be posting some more pics to show how I looked then and how I look now.
Posted Tue Nov 07, 2006 01:39 PM
Posted Tue Nov 07, 2006 02:04 PM
Sorry - just don't believe this story. Too many ploys of needing attention and reassurance on here and needing people to feel sorry for you.
I think there are more serious issues going on than no confidence or self esteem.
Posted Tue Nov 07, 2006 02:36 PM
Unless that story was just a fantasy...
Posted Tue Nov 07, 2006 02:46 PM
I can't believe someone could act like that.
You have my sympathy G
Posted Tue Nov 07, 2006 03:29 PM
Posted Tue Nov 07, 2006 04:45 PM
Like I said before I didn't start looking fat until my thirties and I still got dates then but I was still gaining weight and when this girl tore me down the way she did made me feel like I was only a shadow of what I was in my twenties and I got real depressed leading to more weight gain and I got so fat that I looked like I was nine months pregnant with triplets.
Florida_Teddybear I got a picture of me at 25 in the members forum and I was Nineteen when the story I wrote about happened so I was not ugly at that time but like I said earlier I didn't have any problems with my weight before I was tore down by this girl. Since she was just as big as me and she said the things she said made me feel real bad and I thought I was just a shadow of what I use to look like.
Me and the girl did finish the date but it was a lot of tension between us. And the date didn't go too well. She did say I was a nice guy and was sorry for acting like she did but she got mad because I never told her I was fat and she was expecting me to be fit and trim.
Posted Tue Nov 07, 2006 04:57 PM
Did you guys discuss weight beforehand? (did we, Teddy?) I mean, when I meet someone for the first time, especially if it is for a potential relationship or w/e, I want to be clear of my appearance beforehand. Like, I have a really good pic of me from Mardi Gras a few years back, but that is like... a pinnacle moment.
I don't always look that good either. I have always described myself as 'better than average, but no supermodel'. I know that is what it was in my 20s, not so sure now, but hey, Teddy is hot (IMO) and I'm fairly certain he finds me attractive.
Regardless. One STRANGER'S opinion shouldn't matter. One man's (or woman's) trash is another's treasure.
Posted Tue Nov 07, 2006 05:08 PM
I have gotten my confidence back and if I ever meet somebody I will be telling another real hot story.
Posted Tue Nov 07, 2006 05:14 PM
Teddy and I discussed ALL that (preferences, likes, dislikes, etc physically)
Don't want any surprises, you know.
Posted Tue Nov 07, 2006 05:20 PM