It all started before this previous summer, my ex and I (2years at the time) broke up after getting into a stupid argument that I forgot was about, but I remember it was so stressful at the time I just wanted to forget about it, but she wanted to talk it out thoroughly. Problem is I was never patient, and could never be so I didnt want to talk it out to evey little detail. I will admit my communication/patience with her was very low and this was our weakest point of our relationship. These same arguments have happened before a few times, and when I think its best that we see other people, she would try start calling me up more and we would end up talking it through and back together. Well this time was different, over the summer she planned on going to a farm...
Well over the summer I was moving on, still thinking about her but successfully moving on, then she gets back. At first she would call me up and try and hang out with me, which I didnt really care to much about because I wasnt successfully dating anyone at the time. This time sucked tho, because I fell back in love, even more so then before. I finally saw all the things I did wrong in our relationship before, and have improved (from over the summer and the few months after). She also told me she feel in love with some boy at the farm () and he blew her off, but she still has strong feelings for him.
6 weeks ago I got into a car accident, recked my car, i called her up and she came to pick me up, was kissing me and showed all these relationship feelings (some other word should replace that, im not good with words) that she previously showed me when we used to be together, which felt amazing. She said she would help me with rides whenever I needed them, ect and I really felt her heart opening up to me again. That kinda ended quickly, about a month ago somethings went sour for her when we where together, even tho we weren't back together relationship wise. She didnt answer my phone calls or anything, so I texted her roommate and she said she wants to move on, so I walk to her house to talk to her and neither of them answer the door. At that point I felt like a stocker or something, but was really motivated to figure it out with her. She actually calls my sister to pick me up and when i left finally said she needed time alone to think.
This whole time im freaking out because I really do love her and think I have changed and know what she needs to be happy in every way, and I dont think she knows. I try contacting her via phone and email to talk to her about it, and 2 weeks later she agrees to hear me out. She comes over and I tell her all my feelings, but she still feels like we are better off with other people. She also says that she tried to see if it would work and her intuition says it wont, it also says she would be happier with someone. I Really do think she still has alot feeling about me, she just seems like shes holding them in (and slipped up during the accident).
Now she doesnt want to talk or see me at all. I email her but she doesnt even respond. Its been a month since we have effectively hung out together and I still think about her every day. I dont know why the roles seem reversed now, shes happy to date other people but I want to be with her- but she isnt letting me try to get things right. I have no extremely close friends (or atleast someone I feel comfortable talking about this shit with) and live alone, so am still kinda depressed.
1) What should I do? I would really like to make it work with her...
2) From the ladies: Is there anyone that can relate experiences or can tell me if there is something I can say to her or do for her to revive these feelings for me? Any way I can appeal to her?
3) Already know the mans advice, go fuck other women. Any other ideas?
Also note, i am 21.
This post has been edited by smokingreen: Mon Nov 29, 2010 04:51 PM