Did you ever have to do something sexually to get your s/o in line?
Posted Fri Dec 03, 2010 05:02 PM
Before we married, my husband cheated on me, with some barfly slut. He said it wouldn't happen again and I forgave him. He still hung out at that bar,which bothered me. My feelings were justified when I caught him with another woman again. We were only a month away from getting married. Drastic problems required drastic solutions, so I took matters into my own hands. I went back to the bar and gave 3 guys bjs and intercourse with one also.When I got home, I told him exactly what I did and why. It totally floored him. It was his wake up call. Needless to say, he never went back to that bar again, or any other.
Posted Fri Dec 03, 2010 05:16 PM
Posted Fri Dec 03, 2010 07:50 PM
Posted Fri Dec 03, 2010 08:07 PM
Posted Fri Dec 03, 2010 08:11 PM
I mean, Mr._C. could go out and cheat on me tomorrow, and I just would break off the engagement and be rid of him. There's no way I'm going to stay with a man who hurts me and makes me sad.
It seems like your revenge worked, honeypie, but it wouldn't have been the choice I personally would have made.
Posted Fri Dec 03, 2010 08:46 PM
Posted Sat Dec 04, 2010 02:58 PM
So to answer your question, no, I have never ever done anything sexual to keep a man in line.
Sex to me is intimate and trust based, and what you two have done is the antithesis of intimacy, trust, or even respect.
Lastly, I personally believe that cheating out of spite is degrading and disrespectful to all people involved.
Cheating happens for all sorts of reasons, but spite is the most dysfunctional of all.
Posted Mon Dec 06, 2010 06:41 PM
Posted Tue Dec 07, 2010 01:14 AM
As I've said before, I'm not about monogamy as a given for any relationship, which means if I have sex with only one person, it's because I want to- a choice I consciously make every day. I will never promise it, in advance, to anyone. It is earned on a daily basis.
That being the case, I would have refused to marry a man who would go against my wishes not once, but twice. He obviously has self-discipline issues, or he simply doesn't care about my feelings.
Conversely, I would refuse to marry any woman who believed that fucking someone else could give her control over me.
I feel any person who believes that marriage is about controlling one another is in for some unhappy times. Sharing, complementing, compromising, inspiring, motivating, yes, but never control.
This post has been edited by ScottyWright: Tue Dec 07, 2010 01:16 AM
Posted Tue Dec 07, 2010 10:33 AM
In that case, how did you manage to blow guys at the bar if you can't even do it for your hubs?
Anyway, no. I would never do that. I have done a few things, sexually, that could be considered "wrong", and I've lived with the guilt. I'd never do anything like that as an act of revenge or to get what I want.
Posted Tue Dec 07, 2010 10:57 AM
If he ever cheats on me, even just once, I think I would call it quits.