This post has been edited by mg35760: Wed Dec 08, 2010 10:54 AM
i feel guilty after i masturbate
Posted Wed Dec 08, 2010 10:49 AM
Posted Wed Dec 08, 2010 11:15 AM
but i hv been doing it long...
i always feel guilty... i felt ashamed of myself..... i would enjoy doing it but after done... i would feel bad...
i didnt know wht i was doing... until i read an article on masturbating when i was 19...
a friend once told me... ppl who masturbate were sick... i felt so bad after that... i was down... i made a promise i that i will stop.... i didnt do it for a week...
but i felt so miserable.. i was stopping myself from doing something i enjoyed... it was too much... so i continue doing... with the guilty....
but since i joined sf... n learnt that there r many ppl doing it... n it is normal... it is how our body respond.... being able to share it with close friends.... well friends that know i am on sf.... friends that r supportive.... i dont feel guilty....i am able to see myself for how i am... a horny person lol (lots of laughter)
so dont feel guilty.. accept it... just be healthy doing it... dont hurt urself...
just enjoy it....
hv fun being horny!
Posted Wed Dec 08, 2010 11:18 AM
Posted Wed Dec 08, 2010 11:26 AM
What can you do about it? Learn. Read. Reflect. The easy part is learning and reading. There are all kinds of resources in libraries, websites and your doctor that can get you to accurate information. The harder part is reflection. You will need to examine all of the basic beliefs in your culture and upbringing in light of this new information and decide which one you choose to believe.
Almost everyone on this site will tell you that there is nothing to feel guilty about with respect to masturbation. I am one of them. These are just words, as you will need to internalize them through the reflection I mention above.
Posted Wed Dec 08, 2010 11:35 AM
I don't do it as much now because I have other erotic outlets and means of letting off sexual steam. It is a normal thing to do though and I occassionally indulge. If we didnt do it we wouldn't know how our equipment worked and what feels good.
Get rid of the guilt
Posted Wed Dec 08, 2010 02:01 PM
Posted Wed Dec 08, 2010 02:49 PM
I think a forum like this could help you get over those feelings.
Your sexuality should be embraced. Thoughts and experimenting should be embraced.
Will help you....... and ultimately your partner enjoy your sex life. that is thinking long term I suppose.
I can only imagine how enjoyable masturbating is going to be when you get rid of the guilty feelings! Have fun with it!
Posted Wed Dec 08, 2010 03:26 PM
All good advice so far.
What is there to feel guilty about? You are not hurting anyone, not even yourself. You're not breaking any laws. I'm assuming you're not masturbating in inappropriate places or times. It's not talking you away from other things in life that are important to you, is it? Like work, school or family? It's not immoral in anyway...even the bible does not condemn it. So what's there to feel guilty about?
BTW, masturbation, when not having sex regularly is known to be good for a person's physical health, not just their mental health. This is true for both men and women. All recent studies say that most people masturbate regularly, even when in a sexual relationship. You are not alone, you are not strange, you are not weird. Relax and enjoy it. I hope this helps...
Posted Thu Dec 09, 2010 10:15 PM
Posted Thu Dec 09, 2010 10:23 PM
Posted Sat Dec 11, 2010 08:24 AM
But i am getting off-topic...
Plain and simple masturbation, be it fantasizing about someone you saw today, about the girl in your playboy or on your screen, i totally fine and shouldn't involve any guilt. You're not hurting anyone, you're not hurting yourself, you're ltetting off the steam, you're preventing prostate and testes cancer, what's the problem?