Being asked to have a baby... Or a guy asking to have a baby for him
Posted Tue Dec 14, 2010 02:27 PM
Now, I still find the thought very flattering, and he assured me that had I been 10 years younger... He'd probably would've done something to make it happen. Okay, I said, still a compliment... What else was I going to say? I think I'm actually a good deal when it comes to raising children, but still, it's an unsettling request to say the least.
The thing is, that this is not the first time I'm being "asked". I've been offered a ring... Thanks gawd, because I would've probably wear it and hit them in the eye with it for being so stupid as to spend hundreds of dollars on a stupid little piece of rock. Really, I find expensive jewelry somewhat vain for a number of reasons that are a whole different topic.
I think it's been 3 or 4 times that I've been seriously asked to have someone's child, and out of those I only took the offer once. Have you ladies have had this kind of request at all? Have you gents ever been so overtaken by the desire of having an offspring to the point of asking a woman to have it for you?
Posted Tue Dec 14, 2010 02:30 PM
Posted Tue Dec 14, 2010 02:31 PM
This post has been edited by Mercury_Man: Tue Dec 14, 2010 02:31 PM
Posted Tue Dec 14, 2010 02:40 PM
To be asked by a friend with benefits would be awkward and probably a little bit unnerving for me.
Posted Tue Dec 14, 2010 02:54 PM
That's fine with me Merc... Not going to happen though...
Really, I'm not asking guys if they were asked for a baby by a woman. I know that would be a major turn off and instant freak out.
I wouldn't think any less of somebody who tells me I would be a great mother for their child. Hey, I know I'm a good deal when it comes to that. It's not that he's actually asking me to do it, but yeah, I've heard it more than once in my life, and it generally comes very quickly after I met the person.
Posted Tue Dec 14, 2010 02:56 PM
Posted Tue Dec 14, 2010 02:59 PM
He was a good friend of mine (we have since fallen out) who was older than me by over 10 years. He had never been married and never had kids, and the whole time i've known him (years) he's never had a serious girlfriend. He's not a bad looking guy and he has a good job, but he has some jealousy issues...
He would mention it to me offhandedly, and one time even offered me money to do it but pretended to be joking. I'm sure he was serious.
I just... yeah, I was a bit freaked out by it and always tried to ignore it. I guess there is a reason we're no longer friends, he was a bit too far out there for me.
Posted Tue Dec 14, 2010 04:41 PM
Posted Tue Dec 14, 2010 05:13 PM
I found it pretty creepy.
Somewhat related perhaps ... I've also had a guy who wanted to suckle milk from me. And this was fairly recently! I was like ... ummmm ... I'm 45 years old. It's been 22 years since I had children. You want to do what??????
Posted Tue Dec 14, 2010 05:32 PM
Posted Tue Dec 14, 2010 07:16 PM
Posted Tue Dec 14, 2010 07:24 PM
yes i've been told by a few guys that they'd like me to have a baby with them, i've told them that i'm not in the habit of popping out youngsters with any tom dick or harry and won't be doing it until i'm in a secure and loving relationship.
Funny now that I want a child, I might end up being the one that's doing the asking!
Cards, perhaps you'll send me some too
If a mahooosive diamond was part of the deal, i'd have had one no problem for them
Posted Tue Dec 14, 2010 08:48 PM
Well, it seems guys have a way to make it sound like a joke no matter what... In this particular instance, he knows the possibilities of a rock bearing a baby are probably higher, so it's not that I'm going to freak out or anything... I mean, if he wants to practice making babies with me it's fine, then he can go and do it for real with someone else; but just the fact that he told me, and that he wasn't drunk when he did it, is kind of a compliment.
I mean, out of the times I've been asked in a semi-serious manner, there have been a few where the guy actually tells me that he'd free me of the burden of child rearing, and that all I had to do was to push it out... I think it's probably the age range of the guys that I normally go out with... They're in their late 20's, early 30's so they're getting tired of fooling around like teenagers, so there might be a little truth in that biological clock thing. I guess it depends on how solid of a family background they have, and this I think it's a good indication.
Anyway, the father of my children pull that one on me when we were just fooling around with no commitment whatsoever. He turned out to be a good father in spite of everything, just a lousy husband. By the way, I just put my actual children in a plane so they can spend Christmas with him... In the mean time, I'm going to have my friends practice having babies on me...
This post has been edited by Olive: Tue Dec 14, 2010 08:54 PM
Posted Tue Dec 14, 2010 10:56 PM
thats what they all say
Posted Tue Dec 14, 2010 11:34 PM
Being asked doesn't creep me out, we are in a stable relationship but just aren't married, we've got good jobs, and 2 extra bedrooms he is itching to fill however if he were just a sex buddy, yeah, I would be a little freaked.
Posted Tue Dec 14, 2010 11:54 PM
Posted Wed Dec 15, 2010 12:40 PM
um yeah so, i'm expecting that in the mail k? and it's cool that i name him after you and call him junior yeah?
Posted Wed Dec 15, 2010 05:25 PM
You can call him whatever you want, I just hope he gets his dads looks and not his moms kidding!!!!! You and I would make beautiful babies
Posted Wed Dec 15, 2010 07:56 PM