loner? or former-loner
Posted Wed Dec 29, 2010 09:39 AM
anyone who is a loner, or former loner...doesnt like talking....doesnt have many fds....
usually keep things in yourself...
how do u finally get in a relationship? gf, bf?
cos talking and expresee yourself well are the key to the beginning of relationship
how do u get there?
Posted Wed Dec 29, 2010 10:55 AM
There are thousands of girls who love socially incompetent, loner type guys, and easier to find than you'd think.
But uhhh, you probably don't want to be in a relationship with them, they tend to be users.
Just force yourself out there. You will embarress yourself, get abused, maybe slapped, and earn a reputation - (most people will see you as an arsehole, not someone who is just a poor communicator), but you have no choice, so do it.
Or stay at home, safe from the jeers and crushing let downs of the pretty girls, and watch your porn and soil box after box of tissues.
Okay, that was useless advice.
People are just people, and (this is going to get a little "Fight Club") most of them are pretty plain and don't do well with out-of-the-ordinary, and will just pretend not to hear you, or give you a standard let-down if you try to strike up a conversation or what have you.
Don't be afraid to look like a dork, and don't worry if they have boyfriends or any of that. A conversation with someone, even if they are in a relationship is still a win. Because it means you're not alienating yourself, and they might have friends etc.
Don't think about it too hard or you seem like a predator, but you have to be aware that your target is not the girl or boy you are talking to right now, but their whole social circle. Once you are "trusted" so to speak, you'll be more comfortable talking to them, and they'll all be more comfortable with you, and then you can start dealing with the being single issue.
And don't rush it. This is the hardest part. If you have a success, just sort of go with the flow.
If you try to rush, people get edgy.
Also if you get scared and try to delay, people get edgy.
It's hard if it doesn't come naturally to you, but you have to try to guess the nature of people, and their interest and not scare them off.
Posted Wed Dec 29, 2010 11:43 AM
always think i am the weird kind....i wasnt like this before
i want the connection...i like it....
but....due to some reasons....i lost interests in building process....
fuck...that is just pathetic....
Posted Wed Dec 29, 2010 12:03 PM
Look on the upside, as long as you a single you are free to do what you want, and you can't get fucked over by your partner using you or sleeping around or whatever.
(the downside being bored, lonely, cold at night, and going insane from lack of healthy communication with like minded people)
I solved my problem by becoming stupidly rich, then buying things as an excuse to talk to shop assistants.
Posted Wed Dec 29, 2010 12:31 PM
but its still much easier for chicks to be that way then guys I guess. I never make the first move or talk first..
On here however im a huge chatterbox but its because I have been here so long so now its like a second home..took me forever to work up the courage to even talk in the shoutbox when I first joined here.
Posted Wed Dec 29, 2010 12:38 PM