Posted Sun Jan 02, 2011 04:16 PM
If im wearing a condom do i also need to use lube? And, she seems to have a tight ass so is there any particular position that is easier for initially getting it in that people find? Im pretty much clueless with regard to anal!
Posted Sun Jan 02, 2011 04:53 PM
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Posted Tue Jan 04, 2011 12:16 AM
This girl says she can orgasm quickly through anal, so she's obviously experienced with it, unless she masturbates anally. She may be your best source of advice as to the best position etc. Talk to her and she what she offers in the way of suggestions. But I’ll throw out a few thoughts also…
The rectum has no self lubricating ability like the vagina has, so yes, you still need lube...lots and lots of lube. It's good that you are using a condom...very wise as there are a lot of nasty things up there.
You may have to help her relax her anal sphincter before attempting penetration. Try rubbing the tip of your finger around her anus (with lots of lube) for a while before attempting penetration. When you do try to insert you finger, just hold the soft ‘pad’ of your finger against the opening and press slightly…if she’s ready, you should feel her butt ‘open up’ to receive it. Ease your finger in and let her rectum get used to its presence…just keep it stationary, not moving it. Be sure to communicate with her during this time…listen to what she’s saying…ask if it feels okay, etc. Once she’s comfortable with your ‘static’ finger you can try to slowly move it in and out a little, gradually increasing the speed and length of the stroke. If this is still okay…then try a little lateral motion as well. After she’s adjusted to this, then you should try to open her up a little more by gently pulling your finger towards her vagina. You might even be able to slip in a second finger as well…depending on the size of your fingers and on her comfort level. Remember to keep communicating with her, and pause at the first sign of discomfort, and stop completely if she is having any pain. Once you get her anus relaxed so she can receive two fingers with very little or no discomfort, you should be safe to try penile penetration. Again, take it very slow, and use lots of lube. And don’t just start going to town on her as soon as you get in. You should just sit still for a while and let her bum get comfortable with your cock. When she says it’s okay, start off with very slow gentle strokes, and build up very carefully and with her permission. Please, stop instantly if she asks you to…this is all about trust, don’t blow it.
For positions, I’ve found that woman on top (cowgirl) does not work very well despite what you might have read (but that might just be my experience only). Doggie is the best, as the position usually will cause her anus to be partially open due to the parting of the ass cheeks. The draw back with doggie is that it gives you too much control, being a male dominate position. If you try doggie, then be very gentle, and very cautious. I’d recommend spooning…for the first time at least. That’s where she lays on her side facing away from you, with her knees drawn up, almost in the fetal position. You lie on your side, with your chest against her back, with your penis resting between her bum cheeks. She would then lift her leg and direct your penis into her rectum. Again, once you’ve inserted it, just lay there and let her get used to it before doing any thrusting. I like this position for the first time (or two) as by its nature makes it difficult to get too vigorous. It also gives the woman far more control on depth and even speed. Also, you can reach around and stimulate her breasts or clitoris manually.
So, take it slow and gentle. Talk to each other throughout, and listen to her. Use a condom, and use lots and lots of lube. And stop at the first sign of her having any pain.
Posted Tue Jan 04, 2011 02:45 PM
Posted Wed Jan 05, 2011 03:49 AM
If you have to 'force' it, you are going to do damage to her. It's late here, and I've been enjoying a little wine...okay, a lot of wine. So I'll apologize now for any of my remarks that may sound crude. If you have to ram it in, then she's not ready. How would you like to have somebody ramming a pole twice the diameter of your thumb 6 inches up your butt? Actually, how would you like that? I would assume you'd like that person to be gentle and to go slow and easy, taking there time to let your ass get comfortable with it, wouldn't you? No different for her. I know she's got a vagina that is supposed to take in a cock easily, but that doesn't mean her asshole is designed the same way. It's the same model of that asshole you've got. It needs to be gently prepped to avoid the risk of injury. When you are fucking a pussy, you want wet and tight. But when you are fucking an asshole, you want wet and lose (relaxed). Don't worry about it being too loose, when it comes to anal, there is no such thing as too loose. A woman can more easily clench her sphincter than she can her PC muscles. So don't worry about getting her bum too relaxed, once you get in, she can always voluntarily tighten herself up for your pleasure. I doubt that would be necessary in any case. It's worth the time and effort it takes to help her get prepared. The unbelievable erotic feel of sliding your penis into her anus will more than justify all the extra time and effort.
BTW, that is not a stupid question. How are you going to learn if you don't ask. I've learned the hard way, so I can help you avoid similar mistakes.
Posted Wed Jan 05, 2011 11:38 AM
Just remember, from a guy's perspective, you've got a good problem to have here and you can figure it out. My wife's ass is clearly marked "exit only" so I don't get to go there with her.
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