So who here is married? and does your partner know you use this site?
Posted Mon Jan 31, 2011 02:06 AM
I am ready for you all to judge me and offer advice about my life. Tell me to communicate. Talk to her. All that. But there really are no issues with my married life apart from the sex being a little safe and predictable. We talk about everything and never fight. But she would be real pissed if she knew what I was doing on here.
So I guess I'm wondering if u r married does your partner know what you get up to on the net? And what are your thoughts on this in general.
Posted Mon Jan 31, 2011 02:18 AM
Posted Mon Jan 31, 2011 05:37 AM
My Wizard knows I'm here, though he's not interested in joining himself - he's got Second Life, I'm less visual. Neither of us considers such activities as cheating, but then we're not exactly monogamous either. What I can tell you is that cheating is breaking the rules of your relationship, and only you and your SO know what those rules are.
Posted Mon Jan 31, 2011 10:21 AM
Posted Mon Jan 31, 2011 10:37 AM
My wife is quite content to let me have as much fun as I want online. Of course, like NoondayWitch we're not exactly in a monogamous relationship. We do some swinging/threesomes as a couple, and each has a friend or two on the side. Our rule is full disclosure, if we do something the other has to know about it and approve. If we ever go behind the others back, that gets into the cheating realm.
But setting those rules and boundaries has to be done by mutual consent for each couple, many would find our standards way too loose.
Posted Mon Jan 31, 2011 11:24 AM
Posted Mon Jan 31, 2011 11:32 AM
I've never hidden sf, even told him I was modding a sex site but he never asked about it and I never closed windows or anything when he came near.
I think he just didn't want to know, so thats fine by me.
I'd have loved if he'd joined with me, its healthy after all and its only talking about something that we all do as human beings. Its not shameful, its not cheating, but its nicer if you can share what you do.
Posted Mon Jan 31, 2011 12:15 PM
Posted Mon Jan 31, 2011 12:24 PM
Posted Mon Jan 31, 2011 01:13 PM
Posted Tue Feb 01, 2011 02:04 AM
I am happy u all have such open relationships. My wife was annoyed when I told her I look at porn on the net. So chatting with girls and cynewulf is way beyond that.
I think my time on sf is nearly over. I want to be a good husband.
Posted Tue Feb 01, 2011 09:33 AM
I don't know about your wife, but I would be A MILLION times more upset by my husband having cyber sex with real people than watching porn!!!
Granted, that's just my opinion, but I know a lot of women who share it.
Posted Tue Feb 01, 2011 09:41 AM
Posted Tue Feb 01, 2011 04:13 PM
I like the ability to be confessional here, and to be open about things regarding my sexuality that I just don't feel comfortable sharing with her.
Posted Tue Feb 01, 2011 04:23 PM
Posted Tue Feb 01, 2011 06:56 PM
This post has been edited by Sinfully: Tue Feb 01, 2011 06:58 PM
Posted Tue Feb 01, 2011 07:30 PM
talking with people on varying subjects is one of life's treasures is'nt it?
Posted Tue Feb 01, 2011 07:48 PM