relationship w/o sex?
Posted Mon Dec 25, 2006 12:45 AM
Posted Mon Dec 25, 2006 01:21 AM
Humans are very sexual beings. However, some are more than others. for those who have sex, some can wait until they are with their sig. other and can have sex or whatever, some have to masturbate inbetween. Nothing is wrong with either. (Actually my g/f is extremly sexual, but she doesn't get off on masturbation too often, and I do. But we're both extremly sexual when we're together.)
Back to the point. In today's society, sex tends to come with a relationship. She's had it before and trust me she wants it. You've never had it before and I know since you're a guy you want it. We all do. If you get in a long term relationship with her and she seems open to doing everything leading up to sex, then after a year or so if things are going well you may want to try something like "taking it to the next level" or such - and that may work. It may not. Point is if you love her don't pressure her, which you don't seem to have any intentions of doing.
However man let me tell you this from personal experience. I was a virgin til I was 19, with my first real serious girlfriend. I thought we were going to be together FOREVER... yeah right. Honestly I couldn't be happier to be rid of her. Now I see a very similar situation happening with my current girlfriend's brother. He's "fallen in love" with a girl, but actually took it a step farther than I did and proposed, and now has a date set. Nobody sees them working out. Myself included.
Long story made short. Don't rule out other girls when you're only 18. I know it seems that you're getting old enough you think you're capable of dealing with that - in today's society you're not. I'm 23 now and I see people getting married left and right that are younger than I, and it confuses me and saddens me to see so many people jump the gun and get married, not realizing what a bitch alimony is.
Longer story made even shorter:
*If she's not a virgin, most likely she'll want to have sex with you eventually. Don't push her, don't rush her, don't pressure her. If you really care about her you'll wait, and trust me man - it will be worth it when you're with someone you love.
*You're still very young. Don't block yourself off to all possible relationships out there. I Know a lot of people who got married around 18-20. Most are divorced now.
*If you do have sex - BE SAFE ABOUT IT!
...wow can I ramble or what?
Posted Mon Dec 25, 2006 07:24 AM
Personally, I don't see how putting something off for a long time makes it more meaningful, but everyone is entitled to their own opinions.
Posted Mon Dec 25, 2006 10:56 AM
Posted Mon Dec 25, 2006 12:19 PM
Posted Mon Dec 25, 2006 08:30 PM
Posted Mon Dec 25, 2006 09:29 PM
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From my own personal failed relationships I have determined something - you can get very sick and want to strangle each other even after you've been together for a year. Personally, i'm not getting married until i'm at least 25, and I want to be in a STEADY, SERIOUS relationship with her for a MINIMUM of 3 years.
Posted Mon Dec 25, 2006 10:36 PM
thats kind of easy for u to say, u r already 23 yrs old. i wouldnt mind getting married after a 2 yr relationship i mean i guess it depends, cuz im only 18 but i could easily see myself married depending on the girl. im def. gonna give it a shot
Posted Tue Dec 26, 2006 03:51 PM
thats not always an option, mine is bigger than me. and he beats me...