Only just joined after finding this forum on Google, and I'm not sure if it's the right place for me anyway?
I'm 38 this month, run a small shop and live in the flat above with my mum who's in her 70s and doesn't need 'looking after' exactly, but needs the company (we're the only family each other's got). So I really don't want a boyfriend/steady relationship, as my mum needs me and my business needs me most of the time. I just miss physical intimacy with someone now and again: my committments finished my last relationship almost FIVE YEARS AGO (so no sex for half a decade, eek!)
The regular dating sites like Match and Direct don't really cater for what I'm looking for. I've tried 3 'no strings sex' sites: BeNaughty, No Strings Attached and Want A Quickie, the first two I have had no messages or interest at all, the third, Want A Quickie, well I exchanged e-mails with a couple of guys but they wouldn't send me a photo and stopped messaging me when I asked. The thing is, I am very shy and not self-confident enough to try and pick up in bars - and to be honest, night times aren't great for me as I spend evenings with my mum. I have a couple of daytimes a week free though, as I don't open the shop Weds or Sunday, and my mum sees her friends.
All I want is to meet a nice presentable man in his late 30s early 40s, not married, who himself is maybe a bit shy and not the bar hopping type. I'd want to exchange e-mails at first, just so we find out a little about each other and our situations, then chat on the phone, and maybe meet for coffee, then if we like each other as people - and know the boundaries, I don't want any kind of serious relationship or committment (so I suppose we'd both be free to see other people) - meet regularly say one afternoon every week or fortnight for sex. Basically what they call 'friends with benefits'.
I don't want messages like some bad American porno film "Oh baby, my cock is throbbing and I want to pound you so bad!" (Yes, someone wrote that to me on Want a Quickie, and sent me a pic of his erection but not his face, lol), just someone who'll chat generally at first, and hopefully we'll get some rapport before we go to bed.
Hoping for a regular 'f___ buddy' as they say, not a string of one-offs, but if a one-off presents itself, then maybe not out of the question.
Also, a nice, kind, friendly female wouldn't be out of the question - I wouldn't 'identify' as bisexual BUT I did sleep with girls when I was at university nearly 20 years ago (oh that makes me feel old!) so I'm not averse to dabbling. But I *think* I'd probably be most comfortable with a man.
Any suggestions or ideas - is this a good website for me, or is it all 'pounding cocks', lol? [Request for referrals to other sites snipped by mod.] Thanks for sharing,
This post has been edited by Abigail: Fri Feb 25, 2011 08:54 PM