Anal vs Vaginal Sex Where do people's boundaries lie?
Posted Tue Mar 01, 2011 10:24 PM
I joined up a long time ago and only posted a few times but here I am again!
My question is, how many people have had anal before vaginal sex? This is at the start of a relationship that, although too new to have had the 'where are we' talk, is definitely not being seen by either of us as a random hook up but more of a 'let's get to know each other and it may become long term' thing.
Basically I've started to see this new girl who is down to experiment with new things as she says her previous relationships have been very vanilla. This is great for me, she's a really lovely girl and very, very intelligent (a big turn on for me). The thing is, she's quite paranoid about birth control, etc. This is completely understandable for me, but until I get tested she won't have vaginal intercourse with me...
BUT last night we did have anal sex. It's not something she'd tried before and I was fingering her, going down on her etc., when I stuck a finger in her butt and used my other hand to really scoop up onto the g spot (we'd already talked about anal and she said she'd like to try it). She went wild and in the end it amounted to us having full blown anal intercourse.
I only ask as it puzzled me how she won't let me have vaginal sex with her as she wants to take it slow and is worried I haven't been tested after having admitted to having had unprotected sex. She's also worried about the pregnancy issue, but obviously this doesn't apply when having anal.
Am I right in being a bit confused by this?
NB It worked out in the end as she absolutely loved it, even having an anal orgasm and gushing all over the bed. Think I won myself some brownie points (no pun intended) over that one!
Sorry long winded, to be honest I think I may have written it out more for myself than you the reader!
Posted Tue Mar 01, 2011 10:32 PM
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This post has been edited by Fire_Crotch: Wed Mar 02, 2011 12:31 AM
Posted Fri Mar 04, 2011 02:39 PM
And yes we've gone down on each other and done pretty much everything now except vaginal sex (I'm working on it! )
Posted Fri Mar 04, 2011 04:20 PM
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Posted Wed Mar 09, 2011 08:06 PM
Most certainly not sir! It was just something that struck me as odd and wanted to get people's opinion on it, from people who discuss sex a lot and could answer me properly, as opposed to a regular forum which would have had nothing but replies of 'phwoar! get in my son!' etc. etc.
Posted Fri Mar 11, 2011 04:26 PM
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Posted Sat Mar 19, 2011 01:24 PM
Hahaha best advice yet!
Definitely not a complaint, just thought it was a bit weird. Unfortunately I don't think the relationship's going to last much longer. Turning down the chance for a 3some here I must be crazy, but I'm just not digging her much at the moment (don't worry I'll do it nicely)
Posted Sat Mar 19, 2011 02:35 PM