fuck! so much better than my fiance what do i do?? :(
Posted Fri Mar 18, 2011 06:46 AM
i managed to keep composure on valentines day but last night i gave in and brought home one of the waiters from work. diddnt really know him that well, hes only been working there for about a week, but i digress.
he was kind of clumsy but to be perfectly honest it was still great after so long.
anyway, after he climbled off me and stopped panting we did the usual thing of cuddling afterwards. naturally he prettymuch fell asleep within a couple of minutes.
whats upsetting me is what he said/mumbled just before he went to sleep.
i could be wrong. or maybe it was his idea of a joke.
but he said "so much better than my fiancee".
so. now its morning. hes still asleep. ive gotten next to none because now i feel like a whore and a bitch.
i dont know what to do or day when he wakes up. like i said im not even certain thats what he said but im pretty sure.
Posted Fri Mar 18, 2011 06:53 AM
This post has been edited by kwildrose30: Fri Mar 18, 2011 06:54 AM
Posted Fri Mar 18, 2011 06:56 AM
he was up for it was he not?
why did he sleep over?
its possible, that in a tired/sleepy mode he drempt that you was indeed his fiancee, and you are better than his last girl.
see how things go, he may bring his girl into work, or just ask him, are you single or do you have a fiancee?
do you truly want to fight, over what was with doubt, a good evening!
This post has been edited by thamerobin: Fri Mar 18, 2011 06:57 AM
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Posted Fri Mar 18, 2011 02:36 PM
I agree with the choices, but I'd pick option B. Avoid yourself some drama about something that even isn't close to a relationship. If he's really interested, he'll come clean at some point and then, you'll have an opportunity to make the questions.
And really, no need to feel as a whore... It was consensual sex, wasn't it? Why the guilt? Now, even if you expected something more permanent, erase it off your mind for now, and next time make the right questions before the fact.
Posted Fri Mar 18, 2011 02:58 PM
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Posted Fri Mar 18, 2011 06:54 PM
As for the matter of how much of a prick he is (or how he has a stupidly poor sense of humour), I would just leave it and let it go. The reason for that is that if you start getting involved with the ins and outs of his relationship, then you start getting involved in his life and it sounds like he's not even worth the time of day, so why bother?
Put it behind you and keep smiling!
Posted Fri Mar 18, 2011 09:42 PM
Posted Sat Mar 19, 2011 09:51 AM
It's a one nighter.
It's not like he was thoroughly vetted.
I can see that you'd respect him less, but it's not your fault and no big deal. You didn't know. I'd laugh it off.
I once banged a screamer who turned out to be engaged. I will always savor with amusement the erotic charge of remebering that I was her last and was "so much better."
Posted Sat Mar 19, 2011 04:37 PM
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Posted Sun Mar 20, 2011 12:24 AM
As to telling his SO, thats a personal matter. If you feel sorry and want her to know what a douche her man is, then go ahead and tell. But if you aren't trying to get into drama (becaue the SO could end up blaming you no matter what) then just ignore it.
Posted Sun Mar 20, 2011 10:06 PM
thinking about it, i dont know why it made me feel like a bitch. its true, i shouldnt do.
as for him. i went to sleep, he left early cuz his shift started way before mine. i was barely awake when he left. since then ive just been blanking him at work. im not going to cause myself any hassle while i do my job by bringing it up.
it was just a one night thing.
if it turns out he does have a fiancee, ill consider telling her if i can. but nobody at work really knows for sure.
thankyou again for the advice everyone xx
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