So confuzzled Yes, confuzzled...
Posted Mon Mar 21, 2011 04:02 AM
But first - here's a little background info on this girl. Cute. Like, absolutely cute that it's adorable. Vibrant blue eyes, a great smile (that's always on her face!), a good figure, and she's VERY shy. Like, when you first meet her she will say "Hi" really quietly, shy. She warms up to you after a while like she did to me and we always talked when I went to my friends locker for lunch/history class. But we always joked around and had some laughs.
Anyways, I'm relaxing and on facebook when she messages me via chat. We start talking, asking each other how we've been etc, when for some reason I tell her about my old highschool crush on her (Yeap, I'm random like that). Went from grades 10 to the end of high school. She then admits she had the same feelings in the same time frame and was to curious as to why I didn't ask her out. Obviously with her being so shy I couldn't get a read off her! I ask her why she didn't ask me out (playfully, didn't mean it as I'm the kind of guy that believes guys should ask the girl out) and she responds with "Well, I couldn't tell you liked me because I always thought you were the guy that always flirted like it was part of your personality."
So, that kind of surprised me. But then I realized, "Wow, that is me!" I then told her a little secret that when I like a girl I smile no matter what around them and always stare into their eyes whether it's called for or not. She told me she wasn't getting her tell. Then she said she had to go, told me to text her, then took off for bed.
Since that day we have texted each other back and forth all day until either her, or I, pass out. I think we have only said "Goodnight" once out of the 2/3 week period. Most of the texting seems to be flirting (God, I hope she is because I've been flirting my little ass off!), and we've even told each other secrets we have told very few people.
Now for the confusing part. We both agreed to go on a date. Just a movie to hang out and see how we changed. Basically, get a feel for each other. The night we were supposed to go she decided to go out to the bar with her best friend. I really didn't mind because you need to choose your best friends first. So, we decided to reschedule but the date is STILL pending because she's "busy".
I guess I have to resort to her texts for now and decrypt them to see if she still could have feelings or does! This is where my mind explodes. I think she likes to make guys jealous but I've never experienced a girl who did this to someone she likes so I can't tell. She sometimes starts talking about these boy band guys that she likes/we're both at a hockey game and she sees me but won't tell me where she is and she says she's with one of her many boyfriends/she goes to the grocery store and says "Omg, my mom is talking to a co-worker and he's a total babe!". Then she gets sad because her ex who works with the guy texts her that "he thinks you're cute!" then tells her he was kidding, and that he didn't say that.
I honestly don't know what to type next. I'm tired, haven't slept in a long time, and any other information will be added later. Also, any questions or if you want me to type up some conversations we had then I will. They're all saved in my iPhone!
Posted Mon Mar 21, 2011 09:05 AM
Posted Mon Mar 21, 2011 06:40 PM
Posted Mon Mar 21, 2011 10:17 PM
Last guy I dated it was like this...we texted daily/nightly and I loved his texts and looked forward to the end of the day when I knew he'd be off work and text me hello babe how'd your day go....I always smiled seeing that...but when we hung out it wasn't the same for me and I realized I liked the texting part but in person we just didn't have the same connection...so now we're not even texting..totally fizzled after a weekend spent at my place. So I do not think this lady your talking to is serious...sorry.
Posted Tue Mar 22, 2011 04:05 AM
whatever you do, don't stress out or get emotionally affected.
Posted Tue Mar 22, 2011 11:32 AM
She might be playing hard to get, and that's fine, but there does come a point where it just seems flakey and manipulative.
Posted Wed Mar 23, 2011 10:50 AM
Posted Wed Mar 23, 2011 01:47 PM
Just dont get caught up in the head games, that can leave you hurt and confused real fast.
Posted Fri Mar 25, 2011 01:19 PM
Posted Fri Mar 25, 2011 03:52 PM
I am glad you decided not to waste anymore time trying to land a date with her. I really think she liked the flirting and attention but had no real intentions of actually dating you. Good for you and thanks for updating.