Posted Thu Mar 31, 2011 09:48 AM
Posted Thu Mar 31, 2011 10:05 AM
while drunk is honestly not the best time to try anal as you really need to use a lot of lube and start out very carefully and slow.
Posted Thu Mar 31, 2011 10:07 AM
Start using your fingers, begin gently, slow pressure, move a bit deeper, slow pressure.
You need to be very gentle, and remember that not everyone body is capable of stretching to the degree that will allow anal sex.
There are some wonderful soft anal stretchers that come in beginner sizes that might help.
Good luck with your fantasies.
Posted Thu Mar 31, 2011 10:38 AM
It would be best if you gave up the notion of anal penetration, for now at least. Talk to her about it, let her know you want to try it, but you also don't want to hurt her. Ask her if it's okay if you 'play' with her bum, but promise her that you won't try to enter it without her wanting you too. You'll have to keep this promise. Limit your anal play to just touching and stroking her anus, perhaps while you are having sex, giving her oral or just engaging in foreplay. Just a gentle touch, and do not attempt to penetrate her. You can even try some rimming (licking) her if you are both up for this. You should read up on some of the 'problems' this can lead to with diseases and parasites before attempting any anal play, just so you are aware. At some point in the future, she might want to go further, in which case, let her be the one to decide what and how to proceed.
For anal to be enjoyable for the receiving partner, she has to be very relaxed and very willing. She'll also need to trust you completely, so please, do not violate her trust.
I'll also add, that while anal sex has a great appeal because it's 'taboo', it's not really a great form of sex. It's great for a change of pace, and it can be a very intimate experience for both of you, but in my opinion, it does not even come close to vaginal intercourse despite what you might see in porn vids.
Posted Thu Mar 31, 2011 11:20 AM
I would have thought it is best to respect your partner decision... imaging if someone stuck a stick into your anal.. would you enjoy something like that? If you don't really love that, then may be you should not do the same to your partner
Posted Thu Mar 31, 2011 05:55 PM
It took me a LONG time to try it again after a first disastrous experience and I decided to try it again myself.