Would you send your boyfriend a video?
Posted Mon Apr 04, 2011 09:45 AM
Posted Mon Apr 04, 2011 10:11 AM
I'm in a long-term relationship with my fiance. A little while back, we were living apart and having a long distance relationship. Well, I thought it'd be nice for him to maybe have some "porn" of me masturbating to use while we were apart (maybe when we had phone sex, etc.). I made him a video in a few parts of me masturbating. It ended up being around 20 mins. or so of video. I brought the camera with me the next time I saw him, and we put the videos on his computer together. He put them in a separate file that he offered to password protect so his friends or whoever couldn't accidentally see my naughty parts. I was proud of myself, but I have to say that the production quality wasn't great. It was too dark for him to see much unless he turned the brightness up all the way, haha...
Anyway, since then, his computer has crashed/blue screened more than once. As far as I know, those video clips were lost when his computer crashed. Well, I assume this because he never said anything about it to me. From his behavior, it didn't seem as if those videos were all that important to him. I'm sure he'd much rather watch professional porn with chicks in it who have sex for a living and are hotter than me, so I never bothered him about the videos or asked him where they are or made any more. I probably won't make another solo video. We may end up making a video together, but now that we're no longer in a long distance relationship, there's really no need for me to make another video for him when he sees me every day.
He said my video "worked for him," and I never really figured out what that meant. It got him off? He liked them? He watched them ever - let alone more than once? I have no idea.
If you're going to make a video of yourself for your guy, make sure you trust that his friends won't see it and that he'll keep it private. You may want to make a copy for yourself, watch it together, and keep the only copy in your possession. If you guys were to break up, you wouldn't want him posting your video on the Internet or something like that. If you do give him a copy (i.e. on his computer, etc.), then it's a good idea to hide your identity by not showing your face. That way, if the video does somehow get out to more than just you and him, people won't know it's you anyway. Above all, have fun doing it. Another reason why I'll most likely never do that again is because I don't have the confidence in my body and the way I look to do that. I'm surprised I did it the first time, to be honest with you. Just have fun with it. Use just your hands or a toy/toys - make a lot of noise - really give him a show. It'll be a great gift from you to him.
Posted Mon Apr 04, 2011 10:15 AM
The reason I chose "Maybe" is because of the possible leaking of the video to his friends - maybe he'll want to show off ("Look at how lucky I am - my girlfriend loves sex and showing off her body to me," etc.). You just never know. The best thing to do would be to hide your face. As long as you're not identified on the video, you will have no reason to feel embarrassed if someone else besides him does see it.
I certainly don't think he'll think you're stuck up/conceited/gross for doing a video for him. I think he'll think it's sexy.
Posted Mon Apr 04, 2011 10:33 AM
he says he likes mine..even asks me to make them for him from time to time, but I feel the same way Miss C does. my quality is no where near as high as something you could get from porn.
Posted Mon Apr 04, 2011 10:33 AM
Posted Mon Apr 04, 2011 10:55 AM
Posted Tue Apr 05, 2011 12:24 AM
But your question raises some serious concerns for me. The most serious has already been addressed by Miss C and Cougar.
You didn't say how long you have been in the relationship with him, nor given us any indication of how serious this relationship is. If you are early in the relationship, then you shouldn't be worried about him losing interest already. If you are, that might be a sign of pending problems. If it is already a long relationship, then you shouldn't be worried about him thinking that you are conceded.
I hope you know him well enough to gauge his likely reaction to a video of this type. Some men find the thought of their partner masturbating to be an insult to their masculinity. Fortunately, in this day and age, I think the majority of us guys don't see anything wrong. You should know him well enough to tell how he'd react.
If you don't know him well enough to gauge his reaction to receiving a video of this nature, then maybe you don't know him well enough to trust him with something this personal. Even with the precaution of hiding your face, it could still mean a great deal of embarrassment if it got out into the world.
But if you do send him the video, and you and he are in a solid relationship, then I'm sure he will love it. I don't like to disagree with Miss C or with Jewelz on anything, as they are most often correct, but I feel I must on this point. There is nothing out there in the world of porn that could even come close to being as special as a personal sex video made for you by your better half. Production quality has very little importance in this matter.