is he stealing from me...
Posted Sat Apr 16, 2011 01:05 AM
Posted Sat Apr 16, 2011 01:21 AM
Have your husband there just in case. Preferably in your living room, or somewhere without any handy objects. Don't be aggressive of angry.
Tell him you want to talk, say something along the lines of
"Brother, I know you're in need of cash, but what you're up to should stop,
If you need help, or something really bad has happened talk about it,
But what you're doing right now isn't acceptable, and is putting strain
on our relationship as brother and sister."
Don't directly accuse him of anything.
Hand him the rope and see if he hangs himself.
If he is slippery and tries to wriggle out of it, point out the fact you know he's been looking up your meds and DS prices online, and that you weren't born yesterday.
Posted Sat Apr 16, 2011 04:35 PM
that's what i would do cause if you catch him in the act,how is he gonna deny it? you ought to erase your computers history after every time you leave him there alone with it!
Posted Sat Apr 16, 2011 06:11 PM
Posted Sat Apr 16, 2011 07:32 PM
It's a tough spot to be in, I'm sorry.
Posted Sat Apr 16, 2011 09:08 PM
edit: a sting might still be an idea to look into, but not necessarily needed. If you do decide on a sting, its still important to confront him with your findings (assuming you record it and not do it in person). Also, make sure you don't corner him, let him feel like he has an escape option (i.e. he can leave, not run away ) so that he doesnt feel trapped.
This post has been edited by Larko: Sat Apr 16, 2011 09:10 PM
Posted Sun Apr 17, 2011 12:19 PM
Posted Tue Apr 19, 2011 11:53 AM
This post has been edited by Lady Who: Tue Apr 19, 2011 11:54 AM
Posted Wed Apr 20, 2011 05:58 AM
Good for you hon.
*Make sure to call the bank and tell them a box of checks is missing and have them issue you some new ones so they can cancel out the ones you can't find.
Posted Thu Apr 21, 2011 12:59 AM
Posted Fri Apr 29, 2011 11:40 PM
Posted Sat Apr 30, 2011 01:44 AM
i am def not a confrontation kinda person, but i much prefer bringin up the awkward convo than tryin to trap someone (like the sting idea). i believe in givin someone the chance to be upfront when called on somethin and go from there.
from personal experience, fam member stealin from ya sucks. its worse cuz its someone ya care bout, i mean with a stranger theres less conscience ya would think. ya forgive cuz ya love em, but it aint easy to forget. ya learn from it, hard one if its costin ya high, but ya move forward, and unfortunately lower ya trust to protect yaself until they prove emselves again.
its of no comfort but its only things, and they can be replaced.
Posted Sat Apr 30, 2011 03:54 PM
Or that... yeah that'd probably work better (M24 incendiary grenade. Filled with explosives and a napalm like substance. Designed by the Nazis for clearing out trenches by spreading massive amounts of white hot flame all over the place, vaporizing everything in its path. I'm not sure what would be accomplished by cramming it up his ass, but I can imagine it wouldn't be pleasant for him...)