IVF - In vitro fertilization.
Posted Mon May 02, 2011 11:32 PM
Posted Tue May 03, 2011 01:36 AM
Posted Tue May 03, 2011 02:22 AM
Would be good to hear from people who have actually been thru it.
Posted Tue May 03, 2011 02:27 AM
Posted Tue May 03, 2011 03:15 AM
Posted Tue May 03, 2011 08:20 AM
Posted Tue May 03, 2011 09:15 AM
So i feel for you, i truly do, my advice is this, some you want to hear, some you dont, but sorry they go together.
relax, just enjoy your sexuality's, come off the pill, the pill can stay in the body for a long time, and whilst you think you are ok, and ready to conceive, you truly are not.
so stop taking the pill, and if you need a form of contraception, use non spermicidal condoms.
forget the calendar, forget your 12-14th days, just have loads of un protected sex, and enjoy it, thats the main thing, enjoy it, when you see it as a chore, you are leading yourself down the wrong path.
YOU ARE STILL YOUNG, some of us fall pregnant just by sniffing, others it takes time, you are still young and healthy, so no smokin, no drugs, very little alcohol regardless of what the law says, if in a years time you are still not pregnant, see your GP, he will send you to the hospital for tests, in most cases it i nothing to worry about, you maybe prescribed Clomid or similar, that is a wonder drug, but it gets your ovaries to produce more eggs, great, but you could have twins triplets etc, but you will have bad periods for sure! so be warned.
but before you get there, you do have to empty your head and relax, have fertile times away on vacation, or long weekends, and just enjoy yourselves, explore your bodies, your still young!
i wish you well
Posted Tue May 03, 2011 08:24 PM
Posted Wed May 04, 2011 03:05 AM
Yoyr welcome to any info i can, and in doing so i thank you for the rep, and i finally got my counselor badge!
with women around, you will always find a couple that have either been through or need IVF.
All i can add is that i had to take folic acid, please ensure you are taking that, its harmless, and you can buy it over the counter, it will work.
I am pleased to hear you have been off the pill a year know, and that you dont drink or take drugs, because it does not help.
yes as you put it ' slip on a dick and there pregnant ' it is so annoying, just like seeing the mother with a handful of children and she treats them badly, yes i get irate when i see that, but what can you do? nothing!
Yes of course you will not give up, and i would not expect you to, u say you have been rooting like rabbits,, i trust that means very frequequent sex? believe it or not, but that is not best if you want to get pregnant, you need sperm that is under 5 days old, not under 5 hours, so i would suggest as an example, that you have sex on a sunday, tuesday, thursday, saturday, monday, wed,, friday, monday,
You get my drift, you must allow the sperm to age, but not go out of date <5 days +>, if the sperm is too young it can not swim.
Your doctor will not just send you up the hospital for IVF its too expensive, <and if you would rather chat privatly i am happy with that> but it is also very stressfull i will give you a brief idea
up at 3:30am, in the car and away, drive for 2hours in built up areas, hopefully get at the clinic before the others, 6am the clinic opens on a first come basis, one blood test then off to work, another 2hrs+ drive, you have the workers coming out, so the roads are busy, you arrive at work, about 8:30, but my hubby then had 400 miles to drive, then pick me up at about 6pm, hour and half drive home, get a meal organized, so you do not sit down till about 9pm, you have to be up at 3:30 to do the samething again and that happens for 2 months, you get the odd day off, and that is just prepping the body to produce a mass of eggs, 95% are to small, there will be faults with others, you only get 2 back once mixed with your partners sperm,
It is gruelling, i only hope you do not need to go through it, truly!!! i do not recommend it, its so painful, once the 2 eggs are put back, you think you are pregnant, then back to clinic in 10 days, before your period is due, and another blood test, and they tell you no sorry, not this time, and in a few days your period starts, its heartbreaking, it truly is.
Relax relax relax, have your bottom raised by a pillow when your partner cums, and try to have him stay there, all beit limp but to act as a plug, do not change position or get up for at least 30 mins, that truly is the best thing you can do
All the best.
Posted Fri May 06, 2011 04:30 PM
The prenantal vitamin i am taking has folic acid along with heaps of other things (11 vitamins and 8 minerals) like vit C, Vit E and about 7 different Vitamin B's. Its called Elevit.
It irratates me too. Heaps. Some parents are so ungreatful. There was one thing that really broke me i went to an ultrasound with one of my bestfriends, it was the first time i'd ever seen one. I even cried when i heard the heartbeat. Only to find out a few weeks later that she had an abortion. I know she has her own life and circumstances but it was truley heartbreaking when its something you want so bad and would do anything for.
Thankyou for your sperm advice lol i did know that it was better to let the sperm age but didnt know for how long ect we would only usually leave it for a day.
Wow about IVF, I had no idea it was like that and for so long! i thought maybe 2 or 3 visits. I knew that it didnt always work. I guess i could say its not like how it is in the movies lol I cannot believe you have to go through all of that and then..... fail. =[
Ahh the bum in the air trick lol i have tried this numerous times, i did stop for a while because we were constantly having sex in the same position (missionary, Said to be the best one for pregnancy) and it started to feel more like a chore then sex. I am more relaxed now tho.
Anyway i want to say thankyou again, i would love to chat with you
Posted Sat May 21, 2011 06:56 PM
Conceiving is a lot more difficult than is made out, even if your both young fit and healthy. I believe in the UK they won't even start doing tests until you've been trying for 2yrs or more. I think the best thing you can do is stop trying. If you are more relaxed it is more likely to happen when you least expect it.
It is also possible to try "too much" which has already been said. You do need to leave it about 3days. Ovulation kits are available but in my opinion they just make it all a bit too functional rather than enjoyable. You can find an ovualtion calendar on the net for free and it will tell you the same kind of thing.
Lastly I would say that your partner might need to consider a few things....does he ride a bike? does he take hot showers or baths? There's lots of things that can affect things.
Good luck and try not to be too worried, let nature take it's course and I think you'll have more promising results. I hope so anyway and I have my fingers crossed for you
Posted Sat May 21, 2011 07:05 PM
I think that relaxing is one of the main things, although you have to understand that when you are trying its not the easiest thing to forget about.
Posted Sat May 21, 2011 07:12 PM
All I can really say is that if you care so much about trying, then your obviously going to be a lovely mum.
Oh and when your up at 3am and your beautiful baby has been screaming for 6hrs for no reason, remember this thread and that wanted it that way
Posted Tue Aug 02, 2011 10:25 PM
Posted Tue Aug 02, 2011 10:29 PM
Congratulations and best wishes!
Posted Wed Aug 03, 2011 02:37 AM
Well done, i said it would happen, so i am really pleased to see that on my last day of VIP i can congratulate you, i hope my words of wisdom were truly useful.
All i will say now is that, stay relaxed, do not pick up ang large or heavy parcels/boxes. Your sex life may have to change, but not for long, just be gentle, tell your man to be gentle, but really, just relax, please report back in what, 7 months, that would be real nice
but all in all C O N G R A T U L A T I O N S
Posted Sat Aug 06, 2011 06:07 PM
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