Sequenced Dry Orgasms
Posted Sun May 15, 2011 11:30 AM
For anyone who has been reading my blog since last summer, you will note a couple of things that I wrote about in the last 20 or so entries. First there has been a noteworthy deepening in my sensual - erotic perspective on the world around me. I am acutely aware of it through my attraction with women and my observation of feminine charm. I have not felt like this since my teen years. I have been swooning at all things feminine and all the wonderful women and girls around me; observation and appreciation of the sensuality of women even in mundane daily life has my mind wandering. With a few ladies in particular the infatuation has extended into serious fantasies (borderline real thoughts) of infidelity; fortunately none of them have materialized and probably never will. My sexual antennae seem to be hyper extended though.
As an outgrowth of the above I find myself walking around with an anguished longing for J ... I have a blog entry started on this already so I won't go on here. All of these things are not a distraction though … they are fueling my writing and my MMO actions.
The big distraction has been a corner that I have turned in my sexual realization journey, through my MMO’s. I have connected with a half dozen guys who are in the same camp that I am orgasmically. They are in the UK, Canada and the US. All are between 40 and 62. All are married. There is a certain sexual maturity that binds us all as well as a unique appreciation of the spirituality and mystery of female sensuality and sexual response. All of us have had roots in Zen and Kundalini Yoga. Admittedly I am a novice in the group; a few of them are into serious diets, daily mediatation and intensive sexual practice. All are accomplished MMO practitioners.
We have formed a group on Yahoo and we are exchanging information daily on MMO practice. Through our dialogues on line I have been growing exponentially in my orgasmic ability in the last 4 months, I feel like I am pursuing a graduate degree in advanced orgasm.
First of all I have not used a prostate massager in 5 months … all of my MMO’s are now self induced with no prostate contact. I just will them to happen. They have been getting so incredibly intense it is hard to do them in bed with J at night. I shake and moan uncontrollably and sweat heavily while I have been having them. They are slower to start but they now grow to such intensity that they go on for a minimum of two hours. A few weeks ago I had a session in a hotel that went on for 3 and a half hours. They are so intense that mid way through them my bloodstream is flowing with hormones that cause me to loose my erection. My body is responding as if I have ejaculated even though I have not and I go on to another hour or more of orgasms.
Lastly but most significantly is the actual practice itself. I am no longer doing as strong visualization of erotic scenes. I have learned from my peers to focus more on sensations and my own anatomy to trigger and sustain the orgasms. I have learned that I am not doing MMO’s I am doing Sequenced Dry Orgasms (SDO’s) Instead of waves of spasms I now look at them as chains of connected pleasurable sensation. There is less down time between sets of spasms as I have learned to link the end of one set to the beginning of the next, causing the session to be a series of connected spasms, each set triggering the next set with minute or two respite and build up between them.
The spasms themselves have changed. As I am loosing my erection mid way through them, I transition halfway through a session with the orgasms having nothing to do with my flaccid penis. As my penis softens the orgasm is dominated by the sensations in my other male sex organs, my anal canal and my nipples. The center of activity is a volley of pleasurable contractions between my prostate orgasming and my penile bulb orgasming. The spasming of these organs causes intense pleasure and copious precum to run. My anus and rectum are also flexing and popping sympathetically as the orgasms are happening.
The growth and depth of my experience is a result of my interaction with these guys is profound. The intense sensual perspective I am experiencing is a direct result of these stronger orgasms. They are ten times more intense than orgasms I have from intercourse. I have learned a lot about my other sexual activity thru these orgasms though. I no longer have intercourse for the sensation of orgasm, I have it to be close to J. I have become a much more accommodating lover as a result. This has had a profound impact on J’s desire for sex and her attitude towards me.
The truth is I don’t really care if I cum when we fuck. My ejaculation matters only if I desire the very erotic idea of expressing myself into her. The orgasms that I have in her are not done for orgasmic sensation. They are done to be close to her and give her pleasure and to feel the wonders of skin to skin contact inside her … a very spiritual act in and of itself.
It has been a wonderful 4 months. I have grown a lot. It has drawn me away from here a little but I will be back in the groove soon. In the meanwhile I am maintaining my dialogue with my Sequenced Dry Orgasm Group on a daily basis. Each day I learn more.
Who would have thought at age 60 my appreciation of sex would be as profound as it is. Even more amazing is that it is continuing to grow each day still.
Posted Mon May 16, 2011 09:53 PM
Who says you can't teach an "old dog" new tricks?
One question so far: What's the difference between MMOs and SDOs?
This post has been edited by Miss_C.: Mon May 16, 2011 09:53 PM
Posted Tue May 17, 2011 03:18 PM
Posted Wed May 18, 2011 02:30 AM
That's a comparison I can relate to for sure. Although I still don't think I've ever had a G-spot orgasm - nor am I any closer to squirting. They're supposed to be different sensations - clitoral orgasms (from what I've read) are focused and concentrated mostly in and around the clitoris, clitoral hood, and (of course) in the vaginal contractions and spasms that occur during orgasms while G-spot (or vaginal) orgasms are supposed to be "whole body" orgasms with sensations that feel like a warmth or tingling that spreads throughout the whole body with the genitals at the center of the wave(s) of tingling sensation (think of it like waves in the ocean). They still originate somewhere - in the genitals - but they aren't concentrated or confined to one place. I've also read that vaginal/G-spot orgasms create an even deeper feelings of relaxation throughout the body (like you're melting) as opposed to the relaxation from clitoral orgasms - which still occurs but maybe isn't as thorough. Clitoral orgasms definitely make me sleepy sometimes, but G-spot and squirting orgasms are supposed to be so intense that you actually need a few minutes to regain physical control of your muscles and limbs.
Posted Wed May 18, 2011 08:09 AM
This is so poetic I need a man like this.
Posted Wed May 18, 2011 08:30 PM