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Posted Sun May 22, 2011 01:52 PM
Posted Sun May 22, 2011 09:29 PM
What kind of disability?
Posted Sun May 22, 2011 09:30 PM
I would put this under physical health personally.
Posted Thu May 26, 2011 07:36 PM
Posted Sun May 29, 2011 02:26 PM
Posted Sun May 29, 2011 02:48 PM
People have a misconception of what makes a person a "quadriplegic" I simple means that a 3 of the 4 sectors of the body are affected. bot arms and 1 leg for instance. I am paralyzed, bu most people assume I'm a "para" but actually I'm a diagnosed a "quad" because I have trouble moving my fingers.
Posted Sun May 29, 2011 03:04 PM
My hubby has an extremely bad back. It's to the point that he has to use a wheel chair when we go places. There are spots in his back where the discs are gone and his spine is bone on bone. He has terrible bouts of extreme pain and can be one heck of a grouch. It's like the old saying, "Don't judge a book by it's cover.". Most of the time he can do most things he did before but sometimes he can't walk because his legs go completely limp and useless.
Posted Sun May 29, 2011 03:08 PM
How can you be paralyzed (completely) in both arms and one leg, when one is paralyzed there is a disruption in the transmitting of signal throughout the nervous system usually in the spinal cord, if you sever that high enough to disable both arms and one leg, you have severed it enough to lose control of your other leg also. This is typically but i suppose there are always those rare cases but not at all typical or common.
What i was more referencing is those who are incapable of using their arms and legs or even if they have the ability to use one arm they will still need assistance with a lot of tasks, that becomes too big a responsibility to take on while starting a new relationship. One would drastically have to change their lifestyle to accommodate the needs of another whom they barely know.
Even if you have partial use of your arms, there are going to be somedays that are easier than others and more assistance will be needed to be given on the worse days where strength is lower or maybe tremors are active. One would need help eating, using the restroom, getting dressed, etc. That becomes hard for someone to provide for especially if you are still trying to get to know the person. Even if you have your arms, there are other functioning that can be affected by paralysis from the torso, like digestion can be problematic, using the restroom can be difficult, some basic functions can now be problems.
I have known a few cats that were paraplegic and a few that were intensely quadriplegic, i just know how much more stressful the later can be on a wife or husband, not to mention a brand new relationship.
Anyhoo, i think you see what i am getting at, if its the case of extreme disability in which you can not function independently, I would say i can't make that commitment or take on that challenge as well as my life and a new relationship, but kudos to whoever could!
This post has been edited by LadyR: Sun May 29, 2011 03:09 PM
Posted Sun May 29, 2011 03:10 PM
I admire your honesty. It takes a special person to know thier limits that well.
The expense is the major drawback with my husband. If we could get better healthcare than Medicare for him that wouldn't be that bad. The stress really comes from the finacial side of of things. Taking care of him physically and dealing with the mundane things is easy.
Posted Wed Jun 01, 2011 09:51 AM
I, too, have to jump on the "it depends" wagon.
I live a very active lifestyle. I have dreams of running a equine facility, and at this time I have over a half dozen horses. It all boils down to compatibility, and unfortunately if one is disabled, that throws a few more difficulties into the equation. I need a partner who can keep up with me, physically, mentally, and emotionally. I need to be met halfway. If my lover had a disability but could still come out to the barn, could still help me out at least a little, I would be okay with it. But I couldn't take care of somebody or leave a person in the house all the time because it's difficult for them to get out, etc.
It really does depend. Disability can refer to many different things.
Posted Sat Jun 04, 2011 02:56 PM
Posted Mon Jun 06, 2011 09:51 PM
id say i take it on a case by case basis and if i click with the person and they have the qualities i look for then i can look past lots of things
especially considering i am not perfect myself
Posted Sat Oct 01, 2011 06:34 PM