is it wrong is sexual massages cheating?
Posted Fri May 27, 2011 04:53 AM
Posted Fri May 27, 2011 08:14 AM
IMO, this could be considered cheating because you found sexual gratification outside your marriage with another woman/person. If my guy had done the same thing, I'd feel cheated on, and it wouldn't be "kosher."
If you're not getting enough sexual attention within your marriage, then that's something you should definitely talk to your wife about. She can't be expected to read your mind, and open communication is important in all relationships. Explain to her what you need and want from your sex life with her so that she knows what you expect. And have her do the same thing and tell you what she needs, wants, and expects from you.
This post has been edited by Miss_C.: Fri May 27, 2011 08:19 AM
Posted Fri May 27, 2011 10:00 AM
If things are not that great between you and the wife between the sheets then you need to have a frank and open discussion with her about it, not sexting with other people behind her back. IF and when she finds out you need to accept everything she throws at you and beg for forgiveness.
Posted Fri May 27, 2011 11:04 AM
If your intent of the massage was to get your rocks off with someone other than your wife, I would think it's cheating. Straying from home for sex without your spouses knowledge is not a good thing.
Posted Fri May 27, 2011 03:07 PM
Posted Fri May 27, 2011 09:42 PM
There's a simpler way to find out what might be wrong or right. Hand your wife a knife, dull or sharp, and you straddle it with your pants off. Now, imagine looking in her eyes and telling her what you did. What's her reaction? Tada! No more guess work!
Posted Fri May 27, 2011 11:14 PM
Cheating : In terms of relationships : Doing or giving anything your spouse/partner would consider to be exclusive unto them within the relationship . In any shape , form , or fashion . Physical or emotional . So I guess the definition might vary from person to person >:]
Posted Sat May 28, 2011 02:03 AM
Posted Sat May 28, 2011 03:32 AM
Posted Sat May 28, 2011 03:53 AM
Posted Sat May 28, 2011 09:11 AM
Posted Sat May 28, 2011 09:29 AM
Sooooo I went to an erotic massage parlor and paid a masseuse to let me make her cum and give me feedback / advice and guidance on what to do and how to do it. I did it twice with the same girl on two different visits; she never touched me.
I guess in the grand scheme of things it could be viewed as cheating but I look on it as visiting a sex therapist. Maybe the jury is out on this one ... but I feel comfortable with what I did and my wife benefited from the indiscretion, if it was one.
Posted Sat May 28, 2011 07:53 PM
I have 2 questions:
1) Were you looking to get massaged to the point of ejaculation?
2) Were is this place and whats it called? lol
If you went to this place knowing what was involved, behind her back, I wouldn't necessarily call it cheating, but it does look like you're trying to hide something:)
I'm kinda on the fence on this one, is that massage intended to make you cum?
Did you ever tell your wife? If you did how long after it happened did you tell her?
This post has been edited by imortalisle: Sat May 28, 2011 07:56 PM
Posted Sun May 29, 2011 12:39 AM
If you don't think you should tell her, then it's probably wrong.
Posted Mon May 30, 2011 10:19 AM
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