Neighbor, to do or not to do? Would like some help please
Posted Sun May 29, 2011 12:57 PM
Anyways even though I know she watched me that time, before I start I check to see if shes looking, if shes not I have a session but if she is I just wait. Encase anyones wondering my bedroom is upstairs and it gets extreamly hot. No I dont have curtains and I leave my window open for air. I do my sessions late at night when this town is dead. But recently here Ive been talking with her on and off. One day she acts interested and other days its like she dont want me around. Shes divorced for the past 3 years and with in 10 mins of me being outside she comes out and finds anything to do to point her ass in my direction, no matter where I am in my yard.
So my question to you guys/gals...should I pursue this any further and slowly approach her about hooking up or should I just use the ballsy method and ask if she wants to screw or is she just toying with me? I'm not sure what would work the best given the past of her watching me, acting interested, then wanting nothing to do with me.
NOTE: If this sounds like I'm a creeper I assure you I am not.
Posted Sun May 29, 2011 04:22 PM
What you should probably ask yourself is this: are you looking for a relationship with her, or just looking for sex? It sounds to me like she's certainly attracted to you, and seems to like your attentions. But, being a divorcee she's probably got her fair share of doubts and fears going on, and who can blame her. No matter what you're after here, you're not going to get an easy "Hey wanna do it?"/"Yeah, sure" kind of resolution. You're going to have to help her work through her feelings, their causes and their effects, before you're ever going to really get somewhere. It that wasn't the case, I'd guess that you probably would have moved farther along with this, and not be struggling with it this much.
I guess then too, that what you'll want to ask yourself is do you care about her? Do you care about her feelings and what's happened in her life? If not, and if it's simply sex you're looking for, I'd say you're barking up a difficult tree. If you do care about her though, and if you do want more from her, then I'd say you're going to have to approach the situation more delicately.
I'll give you the same advice I tend to give everyone: talk to her. You trying to figure it all out in your own head isn't going to help. You need her input and she's the only one who can give it. Again you're in a position to really help her out here in the long run, if you take the time to be good to her, but there's always going to be the risk that it never happens between you. If you can deal with that, and deal with it taking some work, I'd say you may just have a good thing on your hands.
Best of luck with it.
Posted Sun May 29, 2011 09:02 PM
BTW I wouldn't take her staring in your window as mixed messages, or any message at all. A masturbating peeping tom is only showing interest in themself.
I would love to read this in erotic stories sometime if you like to write, if not message me and I'll write something up.
If it were me, in all honesty I would take it for what it is, her needing to get off and not caring too much if you find out. It could turn out to be a casual sexual relationship. If it turns you on you might walk over to her house with a beer and find out if she will reciprocate, it could be pretty hot.
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Posted Fri Jun 10, 2011 07:01 PM
clearly she wont date you, since it hasnt happened
but hold out on her and tease back, see if that gets you anywhere