Girls Who Weep After Orgasm
Posted Tue Feb 06, 2007 04:50 AM
Question here. The more answers the better. This is one of those queries that require much feedback to be effective....
Why do women cry after sex?
Awhile back I was with my (now ex) girlfriend of almost seven years. It was nothing out of the ordinary (ordinary for us, anyway), and at the end I shot my load onto her face (as per the norm).
But this time--the first time, at least as far as I know--she started to cry immediately after I shot my load on her. Bear in mind: we do this all the time. She also experiences several orgasms per session, and I sometimes wonder if perhaps that intense emotional electricity overwhelms her, but crying..? This last session was the very first time in my ten years of sexual experience that a woman cried afterward.
As an addendum...
Sometimes our sex can get rough--really rough. I won't delve into specifics, but suffice to say it can get incredibly ardent, especially when it's been awhile for both of us...but again, that's no deviation from our usual sex life.
So, ladies (or guys, to a lesser extent), why does this occur? I asked her if everything was okay, etc., and did everything in proper sensitive fashion, and she claimed that she was completely fine. So am I being paranoid, or is my Psychology 101 messing with my head again (so to speak)?
She wasn't exactly "abused" as a kid--not sexually, anyway. Her parents could have been a little less physical with the discipline, but that's just how it went for her. And in all honesty I think those childhood things play a role in her sexuality, contributing to the emotional aspects of it...but forget that now. It's off-topic.
So the question--why would she cry after sex? I'm 26 and no newcomer to sex, but never before has a woman cried afterward. I'm 8"x6", which is not especially huge, so I find it highly doubtful that she was in pain (plus, if my cock hurt her, she undoubtedly would have been hurt years before).
I felt that perhaps she was keeping something from me...some serious thing that was messing with her head...but if there was, she never told me. This was unfortunate, for had she some trouble or demon I surely would have done anything to help or comfort her, but I was never given a chance to do so. One would think that after nearly seven years she and I would have been more than capable and willing to discuss such pithy emotional subjects, but...maybe that's just my paranoia again.
Kindly restrain yourselves from cracking wise: "Maybe she's sad about the size of your cock", et al. While I appreciate humor as much as anyone, I feel that such witticisms cannot possibly provide aid in this particular situation =)
Can't wait to hear from everyone! Tell whatever you like, even if it's five pages! The more the merrier, I always say.
Posted Tue Feb 06, 2007 04:54 AM
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Posted Tue Feb 06, 2007 05:06 AM
Only thing I can think of is how sad the outcome of the superbowl must have been for you and her (sorry, I know you asked nicely.. but im a horrible person)
Posted Tue Feb 06, 2007 05:20 AM
Being a Cubs fan as well, I can now shout the old Chicago sport mantra:
JUST WAIT UNTIL NEXT YEAR!!!!!!
(I hope this doesn't spark a discussion that will get this thread off track)
Posted Tue Feb 06, 2007 05:26 AM
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Posted Tue Feb 06, 2007 12:35 PM
But comming from a guy perspective, sometimes we as guys just need to remember that when women are thinking something like "does he really love me, or does he just use me as a sex puppet?" they will not voice that to us. They just hold it in, think about it, and watch our actions to see what proof they offer. So maybe she was just thinking something not too positive, and then comming on her face just set her off as "proof" of the answer. We all know that in order to truly feel we have a sexual outlet, we want to be able to practice all sexual activities we wish (like comming on her face for you or fucking her untill she cries for me), but we just need to remember that we need to provide women with the type of sex that they want also which will sometimes be the sweet, gentle, caring, "I am going to show you that I love you with the way I touch you and kiss you" sex. Not at all sure that is what happened for you, but if it was me, I would be thinking "she probabily wanted slow sweet "I love you sex", and I gave her "come here and get fucked you dirty girl sex", so next few times I will have to remember to give her the caring sweet sex so she knows she gets all versions from me and has confidence I do truly care for her.
Posted Tue Feb 06, 2007 01:17 PM
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Posted Wed Feb 07, 2007 01:12 AM
That's about all I can think of--that she wanted "Be nice to me" sex instead of "Use me like a new sex doll" sex.
That's probably all it was, but like I said, I'm no psychologist. I'm waiting for someone to show up and reply with "You sick bastard, you scarred her forever".
Well, things happen
Posted Wed Feb 07, 2007 02:15 AM