My problem with Sex Toys...
Posted Wed Feb 14, 2007 03:54 AM
1) Now that i realise she enjoys the toy, i'm back to being afraid that it will replace me.
2) I've read it all... "The toy can't take out the trash, kiss, give hugs..". BUT, it can still perform in bed better than me?! Does this mean that she would RATHER just use the toy without me there? Assuming we have great sex, is it possible for her to stop craving sex with me? Will all of her attention go to this little toy?
3) Is she ever going to WANT to have sex without the toy again? She told me right off the bat that she didn't want to use it every time... but who knows what's she's actually thinking. It also scared me that she said she said she doesn't want to become reliant or addicted to it by using it every time. Should i be happy or scared about that?
4) She's always told me that she tried masturbating once and it's just not for her. But she also told me that since i encourage trying it, and i don't have a problem with it, she's excited and she thinks it will enable her to relax and enjoy it next time she's got that feeling while i'm not around. Will this lead to a lack of sex drive and a decrease in sex from day to day if she starts doing this every once in a while? I'm just hoping my encouragement doesn't backfire into a decrease in actual sex.
BOTTOM LINE: I guess my real question is... will she ever genuinely miss having sex the good 'ol fashion way (Just me, her, and the bed sheets), or do most girls stick with the toys for life? I just hate the thought of her not being dependant on me for at least most of her sexual pleasure.... I like the thought of using a toy every once in a while, I just want to feel like i play an important part in the bedroom
Thanks in advance for any advice that can ease my mind, and help me to occasionally enjoy this new addition...
Posted Wed Feb 14, 2007 04:47 AM
You know what the really cool thing about the vibrator and you is? No one can replace a vibrator as no man has that ability. Just the same no vibrator can replace a flesh and blood cock. She's just trying it out now, seeing what it can do. Relax and be confident in yourself.
Posted Wed Feb 14, 2007 05:52 AM
Sounds more like a lack of confidense in yourself than a problem she has. Good luck. Hope you work it out.
Posted Wed Feb 14, 2007 06:12 AM
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Posted Sun Jul 07, 2013 02:03 PM
and I would guess she feels the same way. its just something to add a little spice to your life. relax....enjoy!