Posted Sun Jun 26, 2011 03:57 PM
Posted Sun Jun 26, 2011 10:35 PM
He would always ask me to hangout again and again and we just started getting serious.
After a while, you just get used to the person i guess.
Its actually happened twice.
I didn't find them attractive but they just grew on me after a while.
Posted Tue Jun 28, 2011 12:50 AM
I don't agree that the bold part is necessarily always true. I have several male friends with whom I'm just friends because they're people I've known for so long (I'm talking elementary school here) that they're more like brothers to me than they are sexy or potential lovers. And I wouldn't say that they're unattractive guys at all - they have their own girlfriends (a couple of them have wives) and are not ugly guys by any standard. In fact, not only are they not unattractive but also they're really sweet, nice guys. I just never wanted to sleep with them, and they're men I've come to trust over many years of friendship. I know that if I needed protecting, these guys would be standing right next to my fiance and my actual brother protecting me because they care about me like a sister.
In fact, I have preferred being friends with guys before dating them. This is something I've noticed as a pattern my whole life. In high school, I worked at Burger King for two years with a guy I ended up dating for six months. I got to know him and became attracted to him. Same thing happened in college. There were two male friends of mine - one during my freshman year and one during my junior and senior years - who I had the biggest crushes on and was very interested in dating and/or sleeping with. However, they didn't want to have sex with me. One told me that he respected me too much to have sex with me. So I guess the shoe was on the other foot in those situations. And my fiance was someone I considered a friend before we even met. We talked online for over a year before meeting, and I felt like I had known him forever. When we finally met, I fell for him hard and fast because I felt like he was already an old friend. Like I said, it's been a pattern for me to end up falling for my male friends.
Maybe I'm just weird or something.
There were a couple of guys in there who I didn't necessarily find attractive right away but ended up dating for a short time. But still, I wouldn't say they were ugly guys. One guy was pretty short, but we worked together, and he cracked me up. He had a great sense of humor and made my days at work better. We dated for a couple of months. And there was a guy in college who was a nice guy - a little quirky, but he was nice. And he asked me out - and I'm not sure why, but I agreed to go out with him. We had a spontaneous, fun first date (probably because he was quirky), and I dated him for a couple of months or so. And there was another guy I can think of off the top of my head who was very attractive, was a good friend, and he thought glasses were sexy, which I was so excited about, but I thought he was out of my league. He would never say that about himself, but he was sort of dark, brooding, and creative - an aspiring writer. He was smart, which was sexy to me. We were at the local tavern eating one night - with at least one other person, as I recall - and he stood up from his seat to go to the bathroom, but before he left the table, he kissed me. It was the most unexpected and best kiss of my life to date. I've never had a better kiss. It felt deep and long at the time, and I swear I almost fell off my chair when he broke the kiss. I'm surprised he didn't have to catch me before I hit the floor. It was such a good kiss that I think I almost fainted, LOL. It's the sort of kiss you can get off fantasizing about later. And I have. But we never even dated (unfortunately for me because with a kiss like that he was bound to be a fantastic lover - plus, I heard through the grape vine that he had a big cock). I didn't end up sleeping with those guys. But I also didn't sleep with anyone until I met my fiance. I was a virgin for quite a while. But I don't think it had anything to do with the men I was dating. I was saving myself for something - I didn't know what. And when it happened, I knew it was time.
But to get back to the point, I guess it takes a lot for a guy to be truly ugly to me. The guy really needs to be unattractive and with no redeeming qualities - like a sense of humor, a talent of some sort, a fun personality, etc. Besides, I posted before in at least one other thread you've started that I didn't think you're ugly. I know you're not going to believe me now (because you obviously didn't believe me then), but I don't think you're ugly. I think that your confidence is low.
Posted Tue Jun 28, 2011 02:15 AM
Don't worry about the friend zone stuff. It happens. Sometimes it just doesn't work out romantically. There are all kinds of scenarios that will possibly happen. Maybe you'll be with her in the end, maybe not. Just don't sit there waiting for one girl to make up her mind. Put your intentions out there. You want to be more than friends then tell her. If she says no, look for another girl that you will possibly be compatible with.
You've got to let this "ugly" thing go. Take the time to read the posts here on this board, and you will see dudes that range from really good looking to really not good looking. All having the same problem as you. It's not the looks that turn the girls off. The common denominator is personal worth, and how the individual projects themselves on society.
One time I was seeing this girl. She was really great. We just went out, and had an awesome time. End of the night she totally makes herself available for me to kiss her. I was a huge pussy, and backed down. My ass is still blue from kicking it so hard. Missed my shot. Friend-zoned! Well there's a lot more to it, but that's the jist of it. Never made that mistake again. She was fucking hot!
Anyway good luck.
Posted Tue Jun 28, 2011 11:28 PM
Posted Wed Jun 29, 2011 10:17 AM
I must say, I'm absolutely impressed sir! You have my full respect as I hope to follow in your foot steps one day ;-) So whats the secret!!?! Care to share?!!