Does she, doesn't she? How to approach the subject of MMF?
Posted Mon Jun 27, 2011 04:23 PM
It all falls apart when you consider some MMF fun! It's not practical for me to have a man waiting in the wardrobe for my signal when I have pushed the right buttons! Or probably for starters push a laptop in front of her and get a guy to talk dirty to her, things like this need an element of planning, especially if I am complete wrong and reading the signals back to front! She makes all the right noises about a MMF threesome IMHO, she has a preference to MMF porn while watching and choosing, not that she gives much input when choosing, she loves me putting toys in her while I am in her, she often mentions if she finds a man attractive on the TV (however she rarely does this in the street locally!?). But every time I make the slight inclination that I find the idea even remotely appealing, I get rebuffed with 'sex is about 2 people who really love each other' and that she doesn't need more than 1 man. She never says want, its always need, we can all think of stuff we want but don't need right? I have the impression that she will not open up to me her true feelings in case it hurts or upsets me, even though I have said I find it a turn on.
So what I want to know is, does she like the idea? is it my questioning that is at fault? If so what way would you proceed? Or, how have you previously crossed these waters?
Any input is appreciated, thanks in advance
Posted Mon Jun 27, 2011 05:15 PM
This post has been edited by wouchgirl: Mon Jun 27, 2011 05:16 PM
Posted Mon Jun 27, 2011 05:49 PM
Agreed, I did think whether to put this here or in relationships, but seeing as the only problem I am experiencing with it is the MMF idea, then it ended up here, sorry. Your right in everything you say, thinking about it now, if we can't talk about the idea, how the hell will we talk about any problems that could arise? So I will add to the OP the question and the main point of this thread I guess,
How do we break down the communication barrier?
If a mod see it fit to move this thread then please do.
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Posted Wed Jun 29, 2011 01:02 AM
Yeah, I agree with Wouchgirl. No way forward unless you solve your communication blocks. There's a difference between telling your wife that the idea turns you on and facilitating a space where she feel 100% comfortable in expressing any desires she (or you) might have. Focusing on communication and creating an affirming, safe, erotic space might help you get going...