Unsure what to do!
Posted Sun Jul 10, 2011 11:12 AM
Since then we've slept together, but one time he held back, I was so confused and then the next day he told me he 'didn't just want to sleep with me but also enjoyed spending time together'. And we do spend a lot of time together, we'll go out for meals, watch films, go for drinks.. all 'coupley things'. And that's where my problem is. He says we're just 'friends'. We've never spoken about what we are to each other at all. I was his +1 at one of his work events, and he introduced me as 'his friend', everyone thought we were together..
I just don't know what to do. We just aren't 'friends', friends don't sleep together and they don't spend time together like we do. But I don't want to confront him about the situation, I really don't think I could take the rejection and I really enjoy what we've got. I just don't know where to go from here.. because if we are just friends, he gets moody if I mention another guy is good looking.. but if he wanted more then why hasn't it happened yet?
Posted Sun Jul 10, 2011 11:45 AM
Posted Sun Jul 10, 2011 11:54 AM
Posted Sun Jul 10, 2011 12:11 PM
Us men are very simple to understand, we like to chase for sex but don't give us a hard chase ''we don't like that'' but when we get the sex we kind of lose interest, its not our fault its just the way we are built, after sex most men need or want some time alone or with the guys etc, then we build up to wanting sex again.
Two things are whats going on here, No-1 He has another girl and cant commit fully to you, or No-2 he's happy to have his cake if and when he wants or needs it.
I hope that might be of some help to you Kitty.
Don't allow men to mess you about, if you allow it it will happen. x
This post has been edited by MEMYSELFANDI: Sun Jul 10, 2011 12:13 PM
Posted Sun Jul 10, 2011 12:14 PM
BTW, a lot of men think they're laid back and easy going, but the truth is that they're just as emotional as we are... That moody stuff, I can't stand anymore... My time and energy are precious and I don't wish to spend it that way.
Posted Sun Jul 10, 2011 12:21 PM
Posted Sun Jul 10, 2011 12:35 PM
Posted Sun Jul 10, 2011 12:47 PM
Distance yourself for sometime, and if he comes back ......explain him how do you feel ...without any recognition in his life. tell him how do you wants the things to be ...and if he does not come back .......he was just with for you for humping .....( believe it ) and move on !!! all the best !! Kisses !!!
Posted Sun Jul 10, 2011 12:56 PM
Posted Sun Jul 10, 2011 01:35 PM
No need to settle on some idiot that doesn't truly appreciate you
This post has been edited by Frisco80: Sun Jul 10, 2011 01:37 PM
Posted Sun Jul 10, 2011 01:41 PM
Posted Sun Jul 10, 2011 02:07 PM
Posted Sun Jul 10, 2011 03:30 PM
I agree with you 100% Olive...with a small caveat..this fellow really seems to enjoy this girl's company in all regards. And if I may speculate (merely speculation, here), it seems that they spend ALOT of time together, making interest in another girl less likely. If it was just once every two weeks or something like, I'd say he's into multiple girls. And if he was into another girl, he obviously isn't spending much time or energy trying to get her, which is atypical for a man's logic.
There is something keeping this guy from committing. He likes you, Kitty, but he's got some reservations. When a guy clings to "we're just friends" the way your fella seems to it can indicate that he is seeking in insulate himself from pain by limiting emotional exposure...remember, he knows you were someones FWB, and you really liked that FWB....I'm pretty sure that is in play, here, in your fella's head. Maybe (???) he doesn't want to be a consolation prize only to find out that the original FWB changes his mind and you run back to him. May not be exactly right, but this old FWB is a player in this.
Truncated version, if you like him, you need to ask him what his reason is. He'll dodge it, but level with him and tell him to speak like a guy speaks (directly)... You should figure out what's keeping him from committing. He seems like a nice guy otherwise.
Posted Sun Jul 10, 2011 03:41 PM
Posted Sat Aug 27, 2011 10:05 AM
Or, perhaps there's something in his life holding him back. Ask him. Communicate.
I was seeing a guy who absolutely positively adored me. We never spoke of feelings, we were just friends who slept together occasionally. But his actions spoke the words he didn't. His words contradicted his actions at every turn. But, to him his career was the most important thing in his life and he felt he couldn't commit to anyone at that time of his life. If a guy doesn't like you, he will not spend quality time with you - period. I've had both sides of the extreme. It sounds like he is treating you well and you're enjoying it. It's early days yet, do you really need to put a label on it?
This post has been edited by ♪♫Lyrical♫♪: Sat Aug 27, 2011 10:06 AM
Posted Mon Aug 29, 2011 01:10 PM
Posted Fri Sep 02, 2011 10:56 AM