[B]Going to do 3some... need advice[/B]
Posted Mon Feb 26, 2007 09:21 PM
what happened is that i asked her about the chance of we try once to see what would be to break the curiosity and she was not sure about it but though about it.
They spoke each other about it and the biggest problem for them would be the possibility of that breaks their friendship, so i though "well nothing gonna happen, not a problem.."...
After she tell things to her friend about our sexual life, and how big mine was and how much pleasure she got , she made her friend to want have something with me. and today they were together and when i went straight to them she ( my girlfriend) told me "she said yes" and her grab my left hand ( while my gf grabbed my right one) for about 1 min.
when i stayed alone with my gf she told me that spoke to her those things about us and that she wanted to make some "play" with us, and my girlfriend was very confident and crazy about doing it.
As soon i noticed that something gonna happen i started feeling worried,
although i know that they are not bi-curious and not going to do nothing to each other i started asking myself...
will my gf feel jealous and we get problems with this?
Although i got 21cm its a tiny bit curved down way. my gf told that she will tell her before anything happen but also make me feel a bit uncomfortable.
will i feel unconfortable by being with this new person together with my gf and feel more scared than horny and be a loser ?
will this break their friendship?
she already told some things that dont want to happen, like my tongue on her or lesbians things , etc..
also said that if some1 dont feel confident about it we just stop it , and that will be just done once just for some fun, not to be done times a times.
i'm feeling confused:icon_scra
Posted Mon Feb 26, 2007 09:43 PM
I have, well, had a friend who brought up the idea of a threesome w/me and his wife, fiancee at the time and I turned it down at the time as I had a gf at the time and I was worried it would ruin our friendship-I once decided to have sex w/a gal pal and we had repeated fun, but the friendship was hurt by it.
We were all into coke at the time and one night after they had gotten married I hooked themselves and myself up. Later I got up the nerve to call and offer my services if ever desired again. Within the hour they called back and I was on my way. Just before I got there some anxiety hit. Between the coke, the anxiety and guilty feelings over what I was doing behind my gf's back I ended up w/wood problems. It was great at first she gave me head while being eaten out, but then they wanted me to wear a rubber and that was when the trouble started. Then he began having problems and after a bit she was getting upset. In the end everything worked out and I fucked her twice. She was fine and I wanted to hook up again, but alas our friendship was affected and I've not seen either of them since. I talked to the guy about a year and a half ago and we were supposed to go out for a couple of beers as our dad's had just passed away w/in weeks of one another.
My gf from then is now my wife and I ended up telling her about it a couple years ago. All is cool w/us and we are open to swinging and group sex.
So beware that friendships can be affected. Take that into consideration and if you proceed, go slow and make sure everyone is comfortable. Also consider the posibility of doing it w/someone else instead. Good luck man.
Out of curiosity how big is 21 cm in inches?
Posted Mon Feb 26, 2007 09:47 PM
Posted Mon Feb 26, 2007 10:03 PM
me and my gf also asked each other if wouldn't be better just some play around and preliminaries , some hands and thats it as a first time, and leave the serious thing to later and we get more comfortable about each other.
thanks for your advice.
Posted Mon Feb 26, 2007 10:13 PM
Talk to her. As much as possible about this. The more you talk about it, the less "weird" it will be and the more comfortable you both will become (you and your gf). Make her understand, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that you are all about HER, not the other girl. If they are not bi, then most of the attention will be on you. The other girl is the "toy" in this scenario. Make absolutely sure that your main focus is on your gf.
Don't worry about your size. If the heat of the moment happens and the other girl doesn't feel comfortable doing certain things, don't push it. The less pressure that is involved, the more of a good time will be had by all. Have your gf "climb aboard" and then give her the ride of her life. This may just show the other girl what she's missing out on, and may cause her to reconsider.
You may very well feel uncomfortable. The first time a new thing is tried, it is natural to be apprehensive about it. This goes doubly so for situations such as this, where other people's emotions are an issue. My previous advice stands: talk about it at length before doing it. Talk about feelings. Reassure your gf. Set down some rules and follow them (for example, no kissing the other girl on the mouth, everybody cums, the other girl goes home afterwards so you and your gf get some all-important alone time to talk, reflect, reassure, etc.). Being scared during your first time is natural and to be expected. It doesn't mean you're a loser. If the equipment happens to go offline for a while, hands, lips and tongues are always available as backup. Do not set up your encounter when time is an issue (like having to get 'er done before you start work in an hour). Leave plenty of extra time around the event, just in case something goes contrary to expected (which is a guarantee).
Well, the very act of bringing it up and talking about it has not ruined it, which is a good sign. Your gf would do well to talk with the other girl a number of times before the "party", to make sure the desire is still there, the rules are known, and to talk about what can be expected. If, after all this, the friendship does break up, then it wasn't as strong as they thought it was.
GOOD! Like I said above, ground rules have to be set beforehand. The more rules there are and the more they are followed, the fewer surprises there will be.
Another good idea. There should be a safe word agreed upon beforehand by all three of you. It should be something that should not come up normally in such a situation, like Elephant. If anybody at any time does not feel comfortable with what is happening, the safe word stops it all. Better to be left with a set of blue balls than a possible rape or assault charge. No means No, whenever it is said. Elephant means Elephant, even if you're on your last stroke before the volcano blows. Respect amongst the three of you will go a very long way towards a good outcome.
I hope these suggestions help and you take them to heart. I have been there many times and I wish somebody had told me all this BEFORE the first time. Unfortunately, back then there were only five people living on the planet besides me, so it was hard to find one of them with these hints.
Posted Mon Feb 26, 2007 10:27 PM
Posted Mon Feb 26, 2007 11:02 PM
but i can take some, if they dont mind, we will talk about it before it happens
Posted Mon Feb 26, 2007 11:22 PM
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Posted Sat Mar 03, 2007 09:53 PM
they both touched me at same time or one in him other in balls, or just her touching me while i kissed my gf and was touching her (my gf) we didnt do much(3) ended me and my gf having some hard sex over 1 hour (i though i woukd never come by not beeing so confortable) but when ib came was like 10 shots lol.
it was all a couple of hours in hands under the bloths all 3 in bed seeing a movie in computer, she told my gf that was goood fun and that liked 2 c us, and my gf tolld her that also wanna c her with me (wich will happen next time we play) we got all rules set and will b good fun