To give or receive
Posted Tue Aug 09, 2011 04:27 PM
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Posted Thu Aug 18, 2011 11:56 PM
Exactly, I don't think that it matters either
Posted Fri Aug 19, 2011 03:42 PM
Posted Fri Aug 19, 2011 03:53 PM
Is a woman who likes receiving anal gay? Is a woman who prefers penetrating her partner with a strap-on less gay or more gay? Because there are women who like to receive anal sex and there are women who prefer to give via a strap-on. Do their preferences impact their sexual orientations? If your answer is No, then why is it different for men? (If your answer is Yes, then I eagerly await your reasoning.)
As I noted in another recent thread about receiving anal sex and sexual identity, the two have very little in common. Yes, a gay/bi man is likelier to try anal sex (and be open about admitting that he likes it, if he does) than a straight man is, but that doesn't mean that a straight man doesn't have the pleasure receptors, too.
A man is attracted only to other men (and not to women) and does not enjoy the sensation of receiving anal sex. Is he gay? Sure! Just being the catcher doesn't feel as good as being the pitcher.
A man is attracted to both men and women and does not enjoy the sensation of receiving anal sex. Is he bi? Sure! Just, like with the gay man above, he prefers giving rather than receiving.
A man is attracted only to women (and not to other men) and very much enjoys the sensation of receiving anal sex. Is he straight? Sure! Just he really enjoys the feeling of his ass being stimulated from the inside. Huzzah for strap-ons and straight/bi women who like to use them!
So, if you want to measure your "gayness," then focus on how much you prefer men over women. You'll need another term to figure out where you are on the prefer-pitching-vs-catching scale.