I'm starting to think my idea of a good man is like society's view of the chupacabra. I want to believe it exists. I keep my mind open to find it in even unusual places. When I think I've found it, it excites me. When it turns out to be a fraud, it's miserably disappointing. While I seem to be continually disappointed, I wonder, does what I'm looking for even really exist?
I hate modern technology, to start. I don't have a facebook because I find it impersonal. You don't even call people anymore on their birthday...facebook will remind you to send them a note online. LOL I miss the days you called someone to wish them well, or sent them a card, or god forbid you took them out to lunch! Modern technology has robbed people in general of that personal touch. I find that I crave a slow down. I say all the time that I would die a million deaths if a guy actually wrote me a note, because to take the time to personally touch pen to paper, these days, seems almost as bizzare as chiseling a note on a rock tablet. Lets put that as one of the top things I look for...a man who knows how to add a personal touch. I know how to add a personal touch that a man would really enjoy...so I don't think it's so unreasonable to want the favor returned. ;)
In the same vein as wishing things would revert a little...even though I wasn't alive during the era...I long for a time when men were men and women were women, in their relationships. Today, men just get softer and softer and women act more and more like...well men. I desire traditional roles, in the sense of a relationship. I like the idea of a time when men took care of business and appreciated the delicate finesse of a woman, and women appreciated the support of a man. It seems to be like a much better partnership. I crave a man who "gets shit done"...someone who makes me feel protected and taken care of...who, in turn, I could make feel catered to and appreciated. So the second thing I suppose I am looking for is a man who takes care of me as much as I take care of him.
Not too shy of the above idea, I would love to find the Clyde to my Bonnie. I need someone who can get neck deep in trouble with me and always has my back. You know, a relationship where you can count on the fact that your partner will cover you when the chips are down. A die hard kind of man. I'm a unique kind of woman. I need a man who understands the value of what he has. I need to know that even when we don't agree, he's not going anywhere, because I'm not. Anything worth having is worth fighting for. I'm a loyal person. I need someone with the same level of loyalty...like our own little mini mob, where we both reign supreme. So, we'll add that to the list, a "ride or die" kind of man. ;)
Going back to wanting a man who acts like THE man...lets get to the sex. If you can order a meal at a restaurant, surely you can figure out how to get assertive and tell me exactly what you want in the bedroom. I need a man who can toss me around and surprise me. I'm a naughty girl. I love a man who takes control and takes what he wants, but can take directions at the same time. I love a man who isn't afraid to try something new and spice things up. However, I love a man who can also be discrete and knows how to keep private matters private. Nothing seems more spineless than hearing about your sexual encounters second hand from someone who was informed by your lover. Going back to letting a woman be a woman...part of that is allowing her to be a lady. The day you have to brag about your sexual conquests, is a sad day. So, this addition will be a manly, open minded, yet discrete man in the bedroom.
The rest is typical...attractive, career driven, family oriented, etc, etc, etc. Lets recap...
1. A man who knows how to add a personal touch.
2. A man who takes care of me as much as I take care of him (IE: makes me a priority).
3. A "ride or die" kind of man (IE: someone that always has my back).
4. A manly, open minded, yet discrete man in the bedroom (IE: lays pipe...hard B)).
Is that really all that unattainable? Oddly enough I have the hardest time finding it. You know what I would love more than anything in the world? Someone who gets #'s 1 through 3 so that I can give them the results of #4, over and over and over again. MmMmmMmM, that would be great. A little boy told me recently he likes things to be simple...it doesn't get much more simple than 1, 2, 3. :lol: