I’m not sure there’s a general rulefor what turns me off. I suppose any sense of being phony or fake will do it.Going “too far” (by my definition of “too far”) in explicitness or veering into“extreme” territory is probably a general turn-off for me as well. Both ofthese likely are reflected in the specific turn offs below. Of course, this isfar from exhaustive, just what came to me as I wrote.
No hair down there
I’m not crazy about the trend toshave one’s pubic region. Pubic hair is natural and beautiful to my eye. It’s anice contrast on a relatively hairless body (like many women’s bodies);something to capture and draw the eye to that region. On a hairy body, itprovides continuity and looks natural. Sure, some trimming may be necessary toaccommodate thong bathing suits and the like, but even that can be carried toofar (and I’m not a big fan of those thongs anyhow). I’d extend this to sayingthat the smooth, completely hairless look sported by a certain class of maledoesn’t do it for me either. I’m hirsute myself and proud of it and when I lookat a male body, I expect to see some hair. I won’t go far as to say that hairyturns me on, just that lack of hair where I expect to see it feels wrong and isa turn-off.
Too much pussy/ass (over explicitnessin general)
No, this isn’t about pussies orasses that are too big. It’s about pictures that show off parts, mostly theinterior, of said orifices that aren’t really meant to be seen. In short, Idon’t like spread or gape shots (unless said spreading is happening due toinsertion of an appropriate object). It kind of grosses me out. Now, a niceclose up of a vulva or anus (with or without a cock in it) can be very sexy inthe right context. It’s this business of pulling it wide open to show off farmore than we would naturally see that puts me off.
Pain and humiliation in sex
S&M may work for some. They donot for me. Some kinds of bondage and dom/sub play are okay (e.g. I’d love tobe tied up and dominated just once to see how it goes), but I have fairly clearlimits how far I’ll go with them. I’m not going to condemn this kind of sexualactivity or those who enjoy it, but I am not turned on by it and have nointerest in exploring it.