Ok once upon a time waaaaaaaaaay back in High School(met in 10th grade) there was this girl that I sort of crushed on, and she had a little thing for me too, but somehow we just became friends. Never did anything but except for her laying on my shoulders or lap, and always wearing my jackets and hoodies...
We would still flirt just a little every now and then, but since then we both met someone of our own liking. Although the yr she was single we almost ended up going to the dance together. We would help each other out with relationship troubles and always have each others backs, always.
Fast forward years after HS she is still my closest girl friend. And now she is in more relationship trouble than EVER before. She has been dating a guy who is my best friend's cousin and pretty close to me, like a brother close, to be precise. And I have always tried helping them to the best of my ability. They have been together for years now, since HS. The last time they had a problem like this she got caught up in the "hero syndrome", with another guy friend that I used to have. And basically asked for a "break", just to justify making out with this guy. This was like 2yrs ago.
I was able to help them and her then without a problem... but now.. I have a girlfriend of my own. Who believes I will cheat on her with my friend or that she'll make a move on me. I will say she is an attractive girl, but never saw my personality matching her. And thought I understood why we never dated. Recently, I found out that they weren't virgins(they were trying to wait for marriage but I guess they didn't). And surprisingly her bf NEVER told me anything of it, but she would go into every little detail of it. She told me how wet she gets, and what type of sex she liked. She also asked if being friends with benefits would work with her current boyfriend or at all. She told me that she thought that birth control was making her boobs bigger, and about how my sex life was going.
I told her she was better off just masturbating for now, instead of ruining her relationship with her ex bf, current bf, or friend(I don't know what they are right now).
She also has called me crying multiple time at night, and talked about how bad she misses sex and how horny she was all the time. She kept telling me that masturbation doesn't work for her and that she really wanted it really bad. She said, "*insert my name*, I really want it, but I don't want to rely on him for it". I kept telling her to give masturbation another chance.
And one time as I was leaving her house(she still lives with her family). She asked me if I wanted to sleep over and I told her it was ok, and I'm just gonna go home.
I continued to assure my gf that I've been in the friend zone with her for years, and maybe she just feels comfortable talking to me about this stuff. Since she doesn't have too many friends. But could I be wrong? My gf certainly thinks so. But I just couldn't turn my back on a friend I've had for so long.
I tell my gf most of what me and her talk about to assure her that she can trust me. But she keeps stating how sneaking and promiscuous girls can be. But I tell her that isn't the case. Recently she texted me that she masturbated(I'm guessing correctly), and that it felt absolutely great. And that she finally isn't the one begging for sex anymore and that it is him. My gf has sort of backed off, and realized maybe it isn't as bad as she thought. But still has her resentments. Should I tell my friend that I can't talk to her the same way I used to cause of my girlfriend? I don't think a gf or bf should tell you to give up a friend unless it's for some drastic reason. She knows I'm in a relationship, and I think part of her might be aware of that. Every time I talk to her, I feel guilty, cause of how my gf feels about it.
I don't think she would ever do anything with a very very close friend of her bf, although her bf knows me and her talk and all, but doesn't know the things she talks to me about.
Not sure what to do.