Over the past year or so I have been doing a lot ofthinking about various things. This is just one of the things I have thought alot about, and I would like to get some other opinions on these subjects. So ifyou read this just let me know what you think I am always up for debatingideas. All I ask is that any criticism of these ideas be expressed in aconstructive manner, my intention is not to insult or offend anyone.
Since I can remember I've been striving for the"American Dream". I wanted the marriage, house, kids, dogs, career,etc. The problem I've come across with in the last year or so is that this issomeone else's dream. Why am I striving for a universal goal that has been setout by society standards? Why am I not trying to achieve the "BeckyDream"? What is the "Becky Dream"? That is a great question, andthe answer is that I have no idea. I've been so busy trying to reach a standardgoal that I've been blind sighted by the fact that those things may not evenhold any real value to me.
One specific area of the dream I am having troubleunderstanding is the institute of marriage. I just don't understand how we canrealistically expect any person to make one decision that will ultimately shapethe rest of their lives. Maybe if people didn't go into marriage with suchunrealistic expectations there would be a more positive outcome. No one shouldexpect to get everything they want or need from just one person; we're notbuilt that way. Also, marriage seems to go against our natural instincts. Howcan one person be expected to commit themselves to just one other person forthe rest of their lives? I don't know if I could honestly ask a man to do thatand expect that in the span of lets say even thirty years he will never be justmore than tempted. I don't even know if I personally could make that kind ofcommitment and I have never been one to cheat. I know that marriage is morethan just sex, but when I talk to people who have been married and even peoplewho are still married there are two main factors that seem to always bementioned as problems; sex and money. I guess one of the things I don'tunderstand is why people don't just stay in a committed relationship if that isreally all they want. Why do we have to sign papers and make things legal isn'tthat ultimately taking something away from what we call love anyway. If youreally do love someone and you are committed to him or her then why getmarried?