Female sextourism in Thailand: My girlfriend had paid sex with a thai boy
Sometimes ago I went public with a rather unusual and humiliating experience in Thailand in regard to female sex tourism. During our Thailand holidays my faranggirlfriend actively looked for thai guys and was finally bedded by a young thailover.
Iinitially intended to find out, to how many other farang males something similar happened, either if their girlfriends went alone to Thailand or they even travelled even together with their farang boyfriends, like in my case.From the partially very abusive and insulting reactions I understood, that Iprobably touched a total taboo subject. Others readers doubted my experience atall. It is a “tables are turned” situation in a country, which is by some considered as a sex paradise for male westeners only. Today, I can only conclude that my case is a real rare one, or it happens much more often but the humiliated farang males felt so demeaned, that none ever talks openly about it.
Nevertheless, I still believe that I amprobably not they only farang, who had to accept to share his girl with a thaicompetitor, or otherwise lose her. Therefore I try again to start a discussionon this taboo subject and hope for some more serious and honest replies:
As a student from Germany I visited Thailand together with my girlfriend some yearsago for the first time. Claudia and I were together for three years and shenever cheated on me nor did I on her. She is a good looking girl and ratherconservative minded. But already during our initial visit I recognized how muchshe was fascinated by young athletic Thai guys. On the other hand she becameextremely jealous when I dared to have a quick look at Thai girls or any otherfemales.
However,probably women’s sexuality must be stronger than a conservative mind set:During our second visit she admitted having sexual fantasies about Thai guys,which I had already suspected for some time! Once having ousted her fantasiesand when she realized that she rather provoked a depressed reaction on my sidethan an outrage, I was totally surprised how she kept pushing on with her''ideas'' with great stubbornness...to let them finally become reality! Onlylater Claudia admitted that she would not have had dared to ever tell me againher fantasies, would I have reacted outraged. But my reaction obviously boostedher self-confidence to try to let her fantasies come somehow true and not tobury them under feelings of shame and guilt. From this point onwards somethingchanged between us: From day to day she showed more and more openly herinterest in Thai men ...obviously interpreting my embarrassing helplessness tocope with the situation as silent consent (...which is was not !). There wasless and less hiding of her sexual desires and no more false excuses for me...!
I do notlike to reveal all the details, they are embarrassing and I know, a lot offarang and Thai guys will laugh at me, when reading this report. Anyway, aftera week or so she was mentally ready to make an approach. Claudia persuaded meto join her out to some boys bars, ..driven by her desire, but stillhesitating. After long lasting and luring eye-contact with young Thai guys, itseemed to me that they quicky understood, what the young farang lady was after butwere irritated by my presence. I hated it to see all this youngster queing forClaudia and asked myself, if they are more greedy for her body or our holidaybugdet. It took two or three nights more and instinctively we both new that my“escorting her” had became obsolete. She finally became confident enough toroam alone, but always came back early.
It wassome days later, when she got a call on her mobile while we were spending theafternoon at our hotel pool at the Golden Palace Hotel, off Sukhumvit Road inBangkok. She became very exited...and after a while asked me into my face, if I can live with the factthat she intends to date a Thai boy that night, whom she met a night before. Iwas very jealous but I saw in her eyes how extremely exited she was to date theguy and we both knew well ...tonight it will be for paid sex. I asked her’Claudia, are you really sure...?!’ She swallowed and nodded silently and said‘Rainer....it has nothing to do with you....it is simply...’.
Sheintended to take the Thai boy out for some romantic dinner and then come backto the Golden Palace Hotel. She as well as I felt more secure to let it happenin our place, rather then in some unknown seedy place. At the Golden PalaceHotel we were sure that outward guests are all registered, when staying in aguest’s room. On the one hand Claudia wanted to have her first experience witha young Thai stranger in secure, comfortable and familiar surroundings, but onthe other hand, she wanted me to be safely excluded and not to spoil in any waywhat was meant to be her perfect sex. (Later she admitted that she was at thistime very insecure, if I, in the end, would not lose my temper and do somethingstupid, respectively totally freak out in the hotel floors once after I haverealised that she is naked on the sheets with the Thai guy!). Strange enough,instead of my burning jealousy, I simply assured her that I will respect herprivacy...probably instinctively sensing that my girlfriend was expecting me tono longer be an obstacle to her very special sexual desire. I surrendered tothe inevitable situation and hoped all will be fast forgotten after a one nightstand, what will hopefully satisfy her desire for good.
Before shewent out that evening Claudia rented a second room on another floor for theremaining time in Bangkok without revealing the room number to me.
Later thatnight we left together the Golden Palace Hotel, turned from Soi 1 on to theSukhumvit Road. In a pharmacy near Siam Square Claudia bought the obligatorycondoms. A guy at the counter gave us a dirty smile and said in bad English:“You have fun…!” I thought desperately jealous ‘....for some lucky Thai penis!’We stepped out into the warm air of a busy Bangkok night. She checked againnervously her own room key, and the condoms in her handbag. There was somethinglike a ‘oohh, please understand!’ in her eyes when she hugged me and gave me ahasty kiss. Then we separated. ‘There goes my girl, ‘... to meet her date...,’I thought.
I satfrustrated in one of the cinema complexes at Siam Square and then spent a poornight in an empty double-bed, not daring to imagine what was happening behindone of the doors on an upper floor. I never asked my girlfriend what she paidfor the ‘service’ she received. (Claudia remained silent on those nights and Ifinally respected her privacy).
After asleepless night, I went down to the breakfast room and passed by a thereception. The two chinese guys of the night shift saw me approaching stoppedimmediately talking and were extremly polite to me, but when I just left thereception on to the yard they started giggling and I had the suspicion theywere amusing themselves on my expense.
I enteredthe breakfast room and saw Claudia with her new lover at a table. I will neverforget how pleased and satisfied she looked, when our eyes first metincidently. The very attentive thai guy next to her was relatively tall. Iremember how his black hair fall over his forehead and covered one of his eyes.The other one was aggressively watching me.
They letme approach, looked at each other, then Claudia and the Thai gave me ahumiliating smile and invited me to join breakfast at their table. The youngthai was clever enough to immediately exploit my insecurity and weakness, whenhe touched my girlfriend openly in front of me and watched her enjoying hishand on her naked leg. He managed to shattered the rest of my self-confidenceand within hours he suffocated my last resistance. What I hoped to be aforgetable one night stand turned out to become a take over of my girl for theremaining holidays. He made it absolutely clear that he would stay in the‘driver’s seat’ for the rest of our holidays, having good sex and being paidfor it by a farang girl! On the other hand I understood from Claudia that she somehowenjoyed the macho-behaviour of her non-western exotic lover and that the Thaishowed no whatsoever respect for the fact that I had been her boyfriend for somany years. Claudia spoke to be for a long time and tried to convince me thatit is really only a sex affair with the Thai. She tried to confort me but wasalso clear that he will bed her exclusively. Eventually I retreated fearing to lose my girl and his aggressivnesstowards me decreased. The winner takes it all!
Later Iassisted Claudia to move her remaining cloth from our room to her new room. TheThai was in the bathroom showering. Isaw his and her cloth scattered all over the carpet, the toilette paper on theside table and the bed sheets in total disorder. I remember how I swallowed anduntil today I imagine how theyundressed, how he got on top of her and started thrusting my moaning girl.
Ithappened all so fast that after the holiday I was emotionally struggling for along time. After our return Claudia did not cheat on me and proved that shewas, after all, only interested in hot sex with a young asian. Occassionallyshe still sends him some money, but I can live with this.
Today I amstill together with Claudia and we have engaged. We are honest enough to eachother to accept that she will go out again to look for a suitable partner, ifwe ever go to Thailand again.
Apart fromtrying to start a discussion on the subject of female sex tourism in Thailandit is for me important to send this report to all those, who still believethat
1. asian guys are unable to satisfy farang ladies because of their again andagain repeated “myth of smaller penis size” ,
2. who still believe that women sexuality is restricted to certain pattern /types. Claudia overcame her shyness...and finally did only that openly, whatmany girls, housewives, etc. might secretly think: To enjoy a tropical nightwith a perfect lover with no regrets.