There are three basic terms for sexual orientation: Gay, including both male and female although gay is mostly applied to males and lesbian to female; heterosexual, for all those who either do not declare a preference or who concentrate exclusively on members of the opposite sex; bisexual. These basic gender pigeonholes are supplemented by a mass of further categories within each preference, such as asexual, pansexual, transsexual and so on.
It is widely understood what the terms heterosexual, homosexual, gay and lesbian mean. They are clear and precise, as basic descriptions. Someone who is bisexual, however, is more likely to fall outside of these categories and raise questions about their true sexual preferences because the term is not quite as clear cut as it may seem.
A bisexual is a person, male or female, who has a sexual preference for members of both sexes. They are neither heterosexual nor homosexual but live in a sort of gray area between the two. Some would say they enjoy the best of both worlds, being attracted to both male and female. Again, though, it is not quite so clear cut. A bisexual may be attracted to males more than females, but still feel the occasional attraction to the lesser interest, depending on the person they are faced with and the circumstances of their contact. It is not uncommon for younger women, for example, to feel a sexual drawing towards a young pop star of the same sex, without them actually considering the sexual act. It is also very common for younger women, especially of school age, to act intimately around those of their own sex, holding hands and kissing, without there being any attraction beyond a close, platonic friendship.
A bisexual person may be someone who has accepted their own sexuality and is happy to sleep or have sex with a person of the same gender, or it may be a person who is aware of their own sexual leanings, but has neither accepted, for social reasons, this fact of life nor made any attempt to either admit it publicly nor to fulfill it. The desire to sleep or have sexual relations with a person of their own sex is pushed down, hidden from themselves and especially from other people.
Sexuality, whether it be homosexuality or heterosexuality, is, for many, a taboo subject. It comes into general conversation predominantly when discussing the preferences of other people or on political and religious levels where people are either for or against. Within the homosexual community, a bisexual is considered someone who is neither one nor the other, a person who cannot make up their mind one way or the other, who has not yet come to terms with themselves and their nature. It is, however, a perfectly normal and natural state of affairs and present in everyone, including those who claim strict heterosexuality.
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