I drove to the meet-up location, arriving late because I got caught in a big loop of one way streets. I parked next to the car previously described to me. We rolled down our windows to talk. I was going to follow him back to the apartment. He was older than me - late 40s I would guess. Average looking. But then he opened his mouth and said something horrible. He said, "I have to warn you, my partner is old. Like, really old." I immediately knew. I could see it in my head. This guy could pass for a patient at the long term care center that I worked at. This information would have been handy 12 hours ago! What a bait and switch. But the polite, submissive, non-confrontational person that I am I just decided to go with it. I remained cool and collected. I'll just watch and leave. This doesn't have to take long. I told myself. To him I said, "well I don't have to participate" - something we had already agreed upon in the emails, but when I said it he seemed disappointed.
At the apartment, my gut instinct was dead on. This guy was like 70. We all sat there in the living room and chatted for a long time. At least a half hour. It was nice. Apparantly these two had met years ago. Both were heterosexual men who like oral sex with another man. You might think this would make them bisexual but I seriously suspect they just plain like oral sex with another man but didn't actually feel attraction to men. I could be way off base. Is that scenario even possible?
Finally it became obvious that we couldn't talk forever. We had to get down to business. So we meandered to the bedroom and I tried to figure out where I would position myself. Originally I was thinking a chair but that just seemed cold so I decided to lay on the bed cradling the blow job receiver (younger guy). He removed his pants and old-dude got to work. I had nooooooo interest whatsoever, but luck was with me! They left the TV on! And, even better, it was one of my favorite shows! Those murder mystery shows like Dateline. I tried to look like I was paying attention. And every once in a while younger guy would rub my thigh which I actually liked because his hands were cold and the room was hot.
At one point old-dude was explaining how he's just always liked giving blow jobs and how long he has been giving them. There was an uncomfortable silence - at least it was for me - as I mulled the revelation that he had been molested as a young child. Yet he said it so casually and good-naturedly it didn't leave me the room to say something sympathetic like, "wow that must have been tough"?
So younger guy was taking foreeeeeever. It benefited me because I got to see the whole murder mystery but that is an hour show and I could only imagine how tiring this was getting for old-dude. He was making a valiant effort too! Not half-assing it. Finally, as the show wrapped up old-dude admitted he needed a break so we stopped, got up and walked into the hallway. I had kids at home who needed me so I told them I had to go. But younger-dude kind of panicked and announced that he was almost there. So back to the bed we all traipsed. True to his word he came in a few moments. This actually made me kind of mad, that he was probably holding it back for a long time. He was probably just feeling pressured to perform and tried to hold off. I'm sure it is a case of different points of view given my history of what I would classify as sexual abuse (years of forced blow jobs by my husband) I'm not a real fan of them and I'm definitely not a fan of prolonged blow jobs.
We said goodbye. I emailed afterwards, like I always do, to say something nice. Usually I will mention a favorite part of our time together, sometimes I will just say what a good time I had, or in this case, trying not to lie, but still stretching the truth, I thanked him for inviting me and said it was nice to meet him and his partner. Later he emailed me and apologized in advance if he was being annoying but (in his words) "it isn't every day I get to meet a female sex addict." He wanted to know if I was open to future meetings. I graciously declined.