Once you learn which words are acceptable then try adding a small fantasy to the mix. Start by asking your lover if they have a sexual fantasy (everyone does!) Use dirty talk to try and fulfill that fantasy. If your lover has a fantasy about being caught in the act you could simply pretend you’ve been caught. The dirty talk you would use to act out this fantasy could range from a simple “What are you doing in here?!” Or if you’re a little more daring “Do you mind we are trying to (fill in the blank) in here!” Sexy words that work as well. The important part is to remember it’s a fantasy and the words you use to make it effective must coincide with acceptable words your lover will not be offended by.
Talking dirty can be a lot of fun and can give a boost to your sex life. Being an effective dirty talker takes practice and perseverance. Blurting out rude things may come naturally to you, but being a successful filth merchant probably doesn’t. Just remember: Take it easy and work your way into it.
Now you can lead her down the path to dirtiness and hopefully get her to have dirty sex. Here are some suggestions to help you get her to have dirty sex:
1: TELL HER ABOUT YOUR FANTASY If you get the feeling that she’ll be receptive to taking a darker turn in your sex life together, take the first step by revealing some of your secret fantasies. Dole out a little at a time and see how she reacts. Hopefully, she’ll share some of her inner thoughts in return; when she does, make sure you show plenty of enthusiasm for her ideas if you want to get her to have dirty sex. An important thing to keep in mind when having this sharing session is to keep it in the realm of fantasy. Don’t start telling her about dirty sex you’ve had in the past with other women or your whole plot will come to a screeching halt.
2: MAKE IT NEW FOR BOTH OF YOU
Approach the dirty experimentation like it’s new for both of you. Think of something you’ve never tried before and suggest that you try it together. If she knows you’re starting out on a level playing field, she’ll be more likely to let her inhibitions go and get wild with you. If you want to get her to have dirty sex with you and you act like you’re an expert in the area, chances are she’s going to freeze up on you instead of enjoying herself.
3: WATCH PORN / READ EROTIC STORY
Get each other in the mood by watching porn stars get it on or by reading some stimulating erotic fiction. Even if she’s not normally into watching porn, when you’re trying to get dirty with each other, she may be open to incorporating a video or two. Erotic writing of a less-than-professional caliber can be found all over the internet, but there are also quality sexy stories available from people with actual skill.