I figured it was time to join the party, so to speak, and start writing about my one favorite thing in this life: sex.
Wait, I lied. I have three favorite things in life...sex is one of them but so is money and my family.
My wife is not what you would describe as a very educated or open person when it comes to sex. Yes, she has confided in me that she has had her fair share of men (14 or 15, in her words) and that there's been a few regrets along the way. I've reassured her that 14 or 15 is nothing to worry about and that when it comes to regrets, no one should feel bad for having them. Chances are the person who caused your regret is out there somewhere doing just the same with someone else.
For the past half dozen years or so I've been trying to find out exactly what makes her motor run. She's uber-conservative when it comes to some sexual things and a bit of a dirty girl when it comes to others. For example, she's had a few dozen boyfriends since high school and has dated dozens more so a person would just expect her to know what she's doing when it comes to sex...that she's had plenty of opportunity to hone her skills before I came along.
Boy was I wrong.
To date, she claims she has never spit, swallowed or even so much as tasted cum. She has never talked dirty in bed beyond giving the odd instruction such as "push it deep baby" or "I need your big dick inside me now". She won't watch or look at porn or even read erotic stories. She thinks I want her to cheat with another man but, as I've explained it to her, it's not cheating when your husband has given permission and is part of the fun. To top it off, a mutual female friend of ours has expressed to me (read: asked permission) she would like to address her curiosity and seduce my wife for one night without me around. Of course, upon learning that, I was so turned on by the possibility of this friend opening up my wife's mind a little more, I was all for it. I mentioned it in passing during a romp in the sack and my wife uttered an unequivocal "no fucking way". I hadn't even mentioned who was seeking her attention and my wife said it wouldn't matter who it was, she wasn't interested in anything but me.
For that, I seem to be blessed and cursed all at the same time. Bittersweet to be sure.
Knowing she isn't into being with other men or women when it comes to sex, I thought I'd try opening the door to a little role play with something real basic: Her husband is out of town and a stranger texts the wrong number and it's her. Things go from being a very innocent mistake to being very sexual and he winds up coming over, climbing into her bed in a pitch black room and they have sex. Yep, an old fashioned booty call from pretty much a stranger.
She started the role play but quickly "shut down" as it involved her thinking about cheating and she wasn't into that. We ended up having sex that night but it was just "the usual" and nothing we hadn't done hundreds of times before.
I plan on springing another one on her sometime soon that she won't be able to say no to. I've fantasized about this one for a long time now and I think it goes back to her enjoyment of being on the dating and singles bar scene when younger. I'm going to a downtown hotel, renting a room for a Friday or Saturday night and unpacking some of her toys (she loves her toys when I'm the one using them on her), a bottle of wine and some candles. Early in the evening, I'm going to text her that she needs to take her rings off, dress sexy and to start thinking about the hottest sex we've ever had. She will then be instructed to sit at the bar in the hotel lounge and have a few drinks and ignore my presence when I am there.
There isn't a hotel bar in this country that women aren't hit on while in by themselves. It won't take long, I'm sure. It's my biggest fantasy to see my wife chatting up some strange guy and watching them make moves on each other. The whole time, we would be able to text each other and I'd be able to ensure her safety. She could also give me updates about what she is thinking and what he is wanting. She could drive me wild by telling me how wet he is making her and how she would either fuck him or fuck me or fuck us both.
One of two things could end up happening: I leave the bar, go upstairs and along the way text her what room I will be in and she comes alone...or she brings the guy, too. If the latter happened, I'm quite sure I'd probably just sit back and watch unless she really wanted me involved, in which case I'd be on the bed in a heartbeat with them.
I've heard many people say "when you play with fire" and all that sort of stuff and that scenarios like this are better left to the imagination only. But, I am very secure and trusting in my marriage and I know she is, too. We are both incredibly committed to each other and would never do anything to hurt or cause the other any emotional or physical pain. It is because we have this level of trust in our marriage that I know for a fact we would both enjoy a role play such as this - even if it turns out to be something a little more than either of us were expecting.
At this point, I'm pretty much positive the evening would end with just the two of us in our room having wild, raunchy sex. But, if it does go one step further and she really wants the other guy alone on the bed or the other guy and me to please her, I'm all good with it.
Either way, we both win.