How to improve ?
Posted Wed Mar 14, 2007 02:10 PM
Posted Wed Mar 14, 2007 02:22 PM
Go to the drug store and buy some desensitizing cream found in the condoms department.....may be called DETANE?
Work on controlling your brain to control your sensitivity.
Posted Wed Mar 14, 2007 02:33 PM
2.) When you feel an orgasm is about to come on, slow down and think about something non sexual. An example is what you where doing at your job, what you are going to do at your job, school, or what ever.
3.) When you feel an orgasm comming on stop completely. She will understand. If she doesnt you need to dump that biznatch anyway as you are doing it for her. Train yourself. Go for 6min feel an orgasm comming, stop for one, go for another 6. Try and go through the begining of at least 6 orgms before you go. Soon enough it will be longer between orgasms and eventually she will be 'done' once or twice before you are actually done. I say 'done' because girls are never done if you have enough lube. lol.
I do not reccomend desensitizing creams and condoms. They desensitize her too and if it is too strong you both feel like you are wasteing your time. She dries up then you are just making a fire in her crotch.
Posted Thu Mar 15, 2007 12:16 PM
At some point during sex you will reach a point where you feel orgasm is about to happen. If you keep going and have the orgasm, sex is most likely over. The simplest way to avoid orgasm and keep sex going is to stop thrusting before you get to orgasm. Don't go over the edge. There will be a strong natural urge to keep going. Don't. If you want sex to continue, just stop. After a few moments of rest, you can begin again.
The feeling you get just before orgasm is your pre-gasm. Its a signal, an alarm, telling you orgasm is about to happen but hasn't happened yet. There's a small window of time between pre-gasm and orgasm in which you can decide to stop.
The pre-gasm is your last chance. You have less than 2 to 3 seconds to make up your mind. After orgasm there is no turning back.
You take the blue pill, you keep moving, you have an orgasm, the story ends, you wake up in your bed and go back to your mundane life as a nerd.
You take the red pill, you stop moving as soon as you get your pre-gasm, you don't go over the edge of orgasm, you stay in wonderland, I show you how deep sex goes.
Stop during masturbation
Begin masturbating as normal. As you near orgasm, stop masturbating. Don't go over the edge. Let your tension unwind. When you have relaxed enough, masturbate again until you feel the onset of orgasm, then stop. Repeat this for as long as you like.
This is the simplest way to keep sex going. Later you will learn to keep sex going without stopping like this. First you must learn to recognize pre-gasm, and to stop immediately. Otherwise sex is over. Without the pre-gasm, male orgasm control falls apart. Practice first on your own. You will learn quicker this way. Your concentration will not be broken by external diversions.
Once you have practised stopping at pre-gasm on your own, try it during sex:
Stop during sex
start slowly during sex. When you get close to orgasm, when you get your pre-gasm, just stop. If you are on top, stop moving altogether. If you are underneath ask your partner to stop moving. If you are very close, you may need to take your penis out. Relax completely, and let your tension subside. Don't go over the edge of orgasm. If breaking the flow of sex seems unusual, fill in the gap with kissing and caressing. When you begin again, start slowly. Practice this as much as you want.
Now, when you're happy with stopping, we can move on to keeping sex going without stopping. Still though, always be aware of your pre-gasm. You can always fall back on stopping as the last line of defence when things go wrong. From this point on you should aim to never, ever have an orgasm 'by mistake'. If all the other techniques fail, at the very last, stopping will keep u going.
Slow your breathing to hold off orgasm
As you come near orgasm, your breathing usually gets faster and your heart rate increases. If you breathe slowly, your heart rate will decrease slightly and orgasm will be easier to hold off. Try it first during masturbation:
Breathe slowly during masturbation
Take a long, deep inhale, wait a few seconds, and exhale slowly. Begin masturbating as normal. Maintain slow, controlled breaths. The closer you come to orgasm, the faster your breathing will get. Focus on long, calm breaths: inhaling, holding for a few seconds, then exhaling. If you get your pregasm, stop before you go over the edge. Make sure to maintain the same relaxed breathing throughout. Repeat as desired.
As your breathing slows, your body will enter a calm, relaxed state. Because orgasm is associated with fast breath and fast heartrate, slowing your breathing basically fools your body into thinking it is not ready to orgasm. There is a simple way to make sure each breath is slow:
Breathe through your nose
Again, try this first during masturbation. Breathe slowly and deeply through your nose. Nose breathing ensures slower breaths to the lungs since the nostrils are a smaller passageway than the mouth. Keep masturbating as you do this. Maintain nose breathing from the beginning, and concentrate on breathing slowly if you get near orgasm. Keep your mouth closed. Inhale and exhale through your nose.
Try not to strain or force any breath or make a loud breathing sound. Let the air naturally flow in and out. If you find nose breathing uncomfortable or have a blocked nose, mouth breathing can be effective if each inhale and exhale is long, slow and deep. Then try it with sex:
Breathe slowly during sex
From the beginning of sex, breathe slowly and deeply through your nose. Deeply inhale, hold and then slowly exhale. Have sex slowly at first. As you feel orgasm coming closer, focus on keeping this slow relaxed rhythm. If you get your pregasm and have to stop and rest, keep the same slow nose breathing going during the pause.
Being underneath makes orgasm control easier
During sex, if your partner is on top and you are underneath, orgasm control will be a little easier. When first putting moc techniques into practice, have sex with your partner on top. Later you can go on top when you have gained confidence. Why is control harder on top? The weight of your body presses down thru your penis, making sex more pleasurable but making orgasm control a little harder. So, get underneath when learning a new technique or if you are having trouble controlling orgasm. Being on top also means the rest of your body is in tension, holding urself up or moving around. More muscle tension increases pleasure but makes orgasm control slightly harder so...
Relax your legs and cheeks to help control orgasm
The pc is the main muscle to relax during sex, but tension in your thighs and bum cheeks will also have an effect. Tensing these muscles will increase pleasure but also bring orgasm that little bit quicker. Test this out yourself by masturbating with your bum and leg muscles tightened and your legs straight out. Then try masturbating with all those muscles relaxed. Relaxing will give you less pleasure but help you hold off orgasm. So, to help orgasm control, relax these muscles.
Lie diagonally across your partner to reduce pressure
When you are on top, you can reduce the pressure on your penis by lying across your partner so that your bodies make an X shape. Let your upper body rest down on the bed to your partner's side, and your knees rest on the opposite side. One of your legs should rest between your partner's legs, and the other on the outside. This reduces the weight acting down thru your penis and eases the tension in your body.
Sex without orgasm
Don't orgasm during sex
You may be used to having sex that always finishes with orgasm. To help your control of orgasm get out of this frame of thinking. Have orgasms during masturbation or outside of sex. This helps your body separate sex from orgasm. Then when you have sex, you and your body won't automatically expect an orgasm. Thinking about orgasm, thinking about how and when it will happen will actually bring it quicker. If you think orgasm, you will orgasm. Be content with knowing you'll have an orgasm later by masturbating or some way outside of sex. Then try to finish sexplay without having an orgasm. Do this on a number of occasions, especially when learning new techniques. Once you can separate sex from orgasm, control becomes easier. This is not to say you should never orgasm during sex - do whatever you want - simply that having sex without orgasm helps with learning orgasm control.
Posted Thu Mar 15, 2007 09:05 PM
Posted Thu Mar 15, 2007 09:33 PM
pleasure her before...
she'll pleasure you before...
then you'll last longer!
Posted Thu Mar 15, 2007 10:39 PM
I've used every trick i posted, i went from having 3 minute sex like the topic starter to having 90 minute+ sex with multiple orgasms, i find the breathing and the muscle relaxation easy, the stopping i still have a problem with so how i do it now is when i stop i'll trasition to another postition, it could be from missionary to the X position them maybe next i'll move to doggy, she never knows im about to orgasm, but she knows im lasting much longer then i did in highschool.