What to do?
Posted Fri Sep 02, 2011 08:17 AM
Posted Fri Sep 02, 2011 10:15 AM
About the only thing I can suggest is to look for a married couple who is looking for a third. Then you have some barrier as she's already married, and maybe mentally it would help you not get attached.
Have you thought about trying to make your wife jealous? Try this, make regular withdrawals from your bank account, hide them in a savings account. Then if she asks, tell her it was for prostitutes, as you were taking her up on the offer of finding someone else. If she freaks out, threatens divorce etc, you can then show her the savings account (which better equal the amount in withdrawals) and point out that hey, maybe she really does care after all.
On the other hand, if she says "that's nice dear" or "can't you find a cheaper hooker", well you're done for.
I guess you could also try bi, you might not have the inclination to hook up emotionally with another guy but would still get off on the sex. Just a thought.
Posted Fri Sep 02, 2011 10:43 AM
Posted Fri Sep 02, 2011 11:31 AM
I mean, if we love each other, we will definitely make love = no excuses.
I couldn't live that way, sorry to say that.
That is big problem and nobody can give you good advice except yourself.
Posted Fri Sep 02, 2011 11:45 AM
Posted Fri Sep 02, 2011 07:49 PM
but as somebody stated before swinging or something like that
you dont have to have sex right away just get back in a sexual environment where your comfortable
bring her on this site and show her how many people are having fun and enjoying themselves
Posted Sat Sep 03, 2011 03:30 AM
Maybe this reason and the fact that you have 8 kids is the reason she doesn't want to do it anymore.
She is also probably tired after taking care of the kids all day and that sometimes kills the mood for sex.
I know if my wife is tired, she will choose sleep over sex every time.
Talk to your wife and try to find out the real reasons why she doesn't want to have sex even though she says she does.
Maybe there is an underlying problem that needs taking care of.
Posted Sat Sep 03, 2011 04:56 AM