Taking my girl friends viginity...help!
Posted Mon Mar 19, 2007 11:49 PM
Can anyone offer some help or advice, it would be greatly appriciated. Thank You.
Posted Tue Mar 20, 2007 12:08 AM
. . . and foreplay, patience, consideration . . . .
Posted Tue Mar 20, 2007 12:41 AM
Posted Tue Mar 20, 2007 12:44 PM
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Posted Wed Mar 21, 2007 02:18 AM
Posted Wed Mar 21, 2007 03:12 AM
Even if there is nothing wrong, perhaps the doctor will help her feel more comfortable with the idea.
Posted Wed Mar 21, 2007 03:17 AM
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Posted Wed Mar 21, 2007 03:32 PM
Posted Fri Mar 23, 2007 03:39 PM
Sex, and manual stimulation (with fingers, etc.) should not be painful. If it is, it is a sign that something is seriously wrong. The #1 problem in situations like this is that she is not turned on. You can do a lot to help this--by slowing down, taking more time to stimulate her sexually...this could include touching/kissing her body in her sensitive spots, or it could include something more direct like you giving her oral sex. But ultimately SHE is going to have to do the big part...exploring her body, her sensations, focusing her mind on the feelings, accepting her sexuality.
It's hard to understand as a male (I know, I am a guy), but our society can be very repressive of female sexuality, and many women are completely out of touch with their sex drives, sex organs, sexual sensations, etc. This is complicated by the fact that women on average have less of a sex drive than men, and also by the fact that women's sex drive peaks at a much later age than men's.
I would be willing to bet that the biggest issue here is in your girlfriends' mind. How to fix it though, I don't know. I've had bad luck with "helping people get in touch with their sexualities". Honestly, I think this is something that people need to do at their own pace, on their own time, etc.
I hope this helps. I know it's not always the most pleasant answer!
Posted Sun Mar 25, 2007 02:33 PM
Posted Mon Mar 26, 2007 01:33 AM
Make sure you use spermicide and a condom. If she has any concerns about getting pregnant it won't help relaxation any. If you can start birth control before, then do it.
Posted Mon Mar 26, 2007 08:03 PM
Posted Mon Mar 26, 2007 09:01 PM
I agree. She may very well WANT it just as much as you do. But wanting and being ready for are two totally different things. She probably just needs time.