should i just get over it past cheating
Posted Tue Sep 06, 2011 06:10 PM
Posted Tue Sep 06, 2011 06:21 PM
Posted Wed Sep 07, 2011 01:06 AM
What's left to do? The emotional damage of that breach of trust will always be there. For your sake, and especially the kids, it's best to consider the matter resolved, and just continue on with your life with her. Can you trust her enough to do that?
Posted Wed Sep 07, 2011 08:57 AM
Posted Wed Sep 07, 2011 08:59 AM
Posted Wed Sep 07, 2011 11:56 AM
Posted Wed Sep 07, 2011 06:12 PM
I found out a few weeks ago that she cheated so I did not know about it and so it had nothing on my part with why we broke up in the first place. . she has been faithful since we got back together and says it was a huge mistake . we have a good life together , and I love her unfortunately there is a trust issue , until the last few months everything has been good . We are both opiate addicts but let me stress this point that never has it affected or caused any problems with our kids . I am and will always be on strong medication because of medical problems . she has been clean for 6 years other than a few times , but the last few months she has gotten into my medication , witch I keep locked up in a money bag and combo lock . I Take my meds as prescribed most of the time . but her getting into them and lying about it has caused problems . and now I found out she was unfaithful . if I would have know that back then I most likely would have never gotten back with her and then have kids . our daughter is 8 , our son is 5 and until this everything was good . she said she wanted to know if there was something missing and that's why she cheated , we broke up because at the time we were arguing a lot so we took a break from each other for 6 months when we got back together she said that she knows that we were meant for each other that no other person could make her happy . I believe her when she says that it was a mistake that she wants to take back if she could , she said she never even let him finish cause she felt guilty , witch does not help much , I talked to a buddy and his advice was to use it as a get out of jail card that if I had a one night stand that it would somehow make everything OK . I think that's stupid and that it would make me feel bad for doing that to my kids mother and the girl I love . I am just confused and do not know how to stop from dwelling on it and being hurt from it . .when we were broke up we both were with other people but this one thing bothers me it hurts that she could be with someone then latter get into bed with me...